What happens when you behave in a manner that’s unexpected by your peers?
Nothing. In fact, most people won’t even notice that your behaviour is “unexpected”. So what’s my point? Just be whoever you’d like to be. I’m a firm believer of fake it ’til you make it philosophy. This attitude has worked well for me in many situations and it helped me learn who I really am.
You might be asking yourself, “Aren’t you just faking these roles? That’s not who you really are.” To that I’d like to reference a quote by one of my favourite writers,
“Give a man a mask and he will show you his true face” — Oscar Wilde
We can think of 100 things that keep us from showing our true selves. Peers, social image, norms, personal biases, family, friends, self-esteem, etc.
When we force ourselves to “fake” being who we truly want to be, we’re test driving our characteristics in a manner that protects us from potential backfire.
We’re more comfortable in disguise- whether that be psychological or not- and this helps us gain familiarity with those personality traits we’ve been so afraid to try on for so long.
On that note, who will you be today?