Sashi
Sashi
Aug 8, 2017 · 2 min read

I know where you are coming from in that you are defending yourself and women — but in doing so, I found you are going extreme in some of your statements…

And if you come from an Asian family, this is doubly asserted in your life. Asian family culture teaches everyone to silently bear their burdens, and look as “perfect” and effortless as possible

Don’t make a black-and-white extreme statement like this. You are stereotyping the entire Asian ethnicity as described above. I think it’s more correct to narrow them into Chinese, Viet, and Korean.

Next one…

Emotional IQ is what makes having women on the team of a startup so valuable. It’s not just about the interpersonal-relationships on the team itself, but women also give a perspective to user experience that goes deeperthan the aesthetics of a program. Because we are more tuned to the social needs of the people around us

So what would be your reaction if you read a following gender-reversed statement:

“ FILL_THE_BLANK is what makes having men on the team of a startup so valuable — Because we (men) are more tuned to FILL_W/E.”

It sounds like you are not okay if “men/women are not good at doing something because of gender difference”, but it sounds like you are totally okay with saying “women are good at doing something”. So what if you hear somebody saying “men are good at doing XYZ”, which might implicitly say “women are not so good at doing XYZ ?

I thought what you wanted to say was to not draw a line in skills based on genders, but your saying “Emotional IQ is what makes having women on the team of a startup so valuable” contradicts with my assumption above.

What do you want to say?

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