Don’t Be a Meme: Be a Badass Instead

2018 is winding down and I see a lot of lists and plans starting to be made online about what kind of goals people have in mind for the new year. I also see memes being shared about how 2019 is going to be everyone’s comeback year, much like the one shared by a friend below:

I’m fairly certain the same meme with different years was shared at the end of 2017… and I’m also fairly certain some of the same people are sharing the same-ish meme.

I’ll be honest: If you had asked me a few years ago, I probably would have been one of those people sharing a similar meme on Facebook, wallowing a little in my own self pity. I had just gotten divorced and it was a bitter ending to what ended up being a typical first marriage for someone who hadn’t done their research in full. I hated what my life had become and the decisions I had made in my early-mid twenties. But after I started putting distance between my current and my past life, I found forgiveness.

Forgiveness of my ex, my former in-laws, and most importantly — myself. I realized there wasn’t a whole lot I could do to change the past but I could do a whole lot to change my future. So I did. I started going to concerts — a lot of concerts. Then I started booking trips. It started out with Iceland (side note: amazing country to travel solo in!) and most recently ended with Belgium and Switzerland. And then, the biggest change of all happened.

I left an industry I hated to work in and thought I would never get the chance to leave.

“I learned this, at least, by my experiment: that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” — Henry David Thoreau

Has life been all sunshine and roses? Nope. In fact, I would be the first to tell you that it hasn’t been. I didn’t get to where I am by pure luck. I saw a future for myself that wasn’t my present and I went for it.

So for those of you whom have shared the above meme (or have even been tempted to), as 2018 comes to a close… take stock of your life. What do you like about it? What do you love about it? What do you want to change? And instead of creating a vision board that will end up hiding in the back of your closet, or making a New Year’s resolution list that you will never reference after January 30th, take action. Join Orangetheory Fitness because the monthly price will hold you accountable to going. Get a travel rewards credit card and book that trip to Europe you’ve always wanted to go on. Buy the tickets to the game/concert/play as soon as they go on sale. Buy an instant pot and start meal prepping the way you’ve always imagined. Start putting away money into your 401k instead of promising yourself every year that you will start.

Most of all — be the badass you envision yourself being. And next year, instead posting a meme about your comeback, post that Facebook-curated Year in Review video that shows you accomplishing your dreams.