Showing up for your self, yourself.
We all have a tendency to get swept up in the daily grind, blissfully unaware of how and why we’re doing certain things, in a rush to get them done or to put them away till tomorrow.
This tendency to avoid ourselves really effects the way we live and work, and how we show to whats most important for us.
Maybe we haven’t even decided what is important or prioritized it. Family? Friends? Fitness? Sleep?

We’re granted a myriad of choices every single moment- tuning in, tuning out, shutting down, distracting our thinking. We’re most often not making space for the things that could make the biggest impact on our lives, well-being and performance.
My friends look at me strangely lately because I go to sleep at 8.30p.m Babies go to sleep at that hour. And for a reason. What most people aren’t considering is that I’m up at 4.30. By 9.30am I’ve taken care of all the things that keep me sane — meditation, long walk with my dog, writing/journaling, yoga, breakfast, organizing/cleaning up. By 9.30am I’ve already addressed all the things I need to keep my own sanity and there is not input from the outside world, my mind isn’t distracted by the noise and ceaseless demands on my time and energy. Past 9.30 I can start working on the things I’ve planned to the night before- projects, art, social media, friends. All the things I choose to attend to. By 6 pm I’ve also read a quarter if not a full book.
Getting to the heart of the impact I want to make in this world, I’ve decided to narrow my vision. Social media (must like TV, when I was growing up) doesn’t interest me.What other people are doing is wonderful but I don’t need to spend hours watching it. Books are far more entertaining, informative and educational than more than half the internet put together. My vision currently consists of showing up for and to myself because I’ve only been trying to please, amuse and entertain everyone else to date. That’s not fair on me or the rest of the world. Because if I’m not fully living in my skin, I can’t do what I can do.
Which applies to you too.
So, how can you show up for yourself? Your true self?
1. Intention — everything on this planet was created with an intention first. “Intention before outcome” as one of my Teachers says. The shape, form, output and result of what you do can always be adjusted along the way, what’s most important is the “why” of what you’re doing.
2. Ask — ask for help, ask for advice, Ask and it shall be given un to you. Chances are, if you’re asking the right people, you’ll get a response. Something helpful. A kernel of a thought, an idea, advice. If you’re asking people whose reason and intention behind what they’re creating/doing is wrong, you can ask a million times and you won’t get a response. But don’t fret. The right people will always answer. So ask!
3. Be gentle — you will fall, you will fail (although failure is subjective. I don’t believe in failure, I see it as a learning curve). Be gentle with yourself all the time. You wouldn’t tell a friend who’s crying that they an idiot and shouldn’t be doing what they’re doing, so don’t talk to yourself like that. You are even closer to yourself than your closest friend. Let the mind chatter go. It’s shitty. It’s useless. It wont get your very far.
4. Breathe — commit to learning some breath work. Extend your breathing practice. Learn how to sit still for 3 minutes a day. Then maybe 5 minutes. If you’re busy, make it 30 minutes. If you’re really busy, make it 1 hour. Long inhales, long exhales. Slow your breath down and the rest will follow.
5. Commit to trusting yourself — your heart knows. More often than not, you choose not to listen. Whatever feels best is what’s good for you. The rest is shit. Let it go.
Once you’ve decided to show up for yourself, you can show up for the world. For your work. For your family. For your life’s purpose.
There is nothing more urgent than for all of us to start showing up to ourselves.
The startups, marketing, business strategies and everything else can wait.
Because you, as the person making the decisions, need to know whats most important to you and have boundaries. Because if you don’t, you’ll end up spinning endlessly on the ferret wheel. And who wants that?!
The world is most interested in your truth. So show up.
