50 yrs old now. Started at age 18 with a model’s figure and gained significantly starting at 20. Last year at almost 300 lbs, pain, and health problems, I made changes for myself. Recently, a friend was wowed when she say me (which was fine with me), and expressed how concerned she and others were when I was almost 300 lb. I don’t know how I would have taken it at the time I was at my heaviest, but now I think, “why didn’t anyone express loving concern?” Do any of you feel there is a way to express valid concern for the health of someone you are close with and care for?