Do you know how to unlove someone?

Lizlie Angel Holleza
Nov 2 · 3 min read

Do you know how?

Or should I ask, is it easy to unlove someone?

What a terrible question to ask right?
Because we all f*ckng know it is hard.

Or it is just me?

Have you ever wonder about that?
Have you experienced that kind of love, that kind of feeling?
Wanting to unlove someone you know you truly love?
That you hope you don’t feel anything at all.

Why am I asking?
Cause I’ve been thinking about it for some time now.
Not just thinking I guess.
I am overthinking about it.


How should I unlove him?

How should I stop loving the one I admire the most and act like I didn’t care at all.
Should I stop chatting?
Should I unfriend him?
Or should I just ignore the fact that I have feelings for him?

You know I’ve done all of this bullshit.
But it doesn’t help me at all.
No progress.
It just made me feel how I’m deeply in love with him.
How ironic right?
Instead of making my love fade away, it just becoming stronger day by day.

But it doesn’t help me at all.
It keeps breaking my heart.
It hurts me so bad.
I don’t know why.
It’s just like I ended up crying without even noticing it in the first place.

But there is no one to blame.
Not even you, not even myself.
It’s just no one.

Maybe true love doesn’t always equate to being happy.
Maybe it is what it is.
Maybe what you got is what you deserve.
I can’t say that it wasn’t a true love because I was hurting.
Maybe things happen that way.
No need for deep thinking, no why’s, no what if’s.


So could we unlove someone?

Maybe yes, maybe no.
Maybe I was wrong to think that I can.
Because I tried and I failed.
Cause maybe things meant to happen that way.

Acceptance can be a nice starting point.
But it doesn’t mean that it could help you stop loving someone.
Because for me, it can’t.
It’s not good to fight for something you already know you’re going to lose.

Trying to prove your love is not a bad thing to do.
But are you trying to do it for him or just for yourself?
What do you want?
Why you do what you do?


Unloving someone?

For me, it’s bullshit.
Just let it be.
Just let it go.

I don’t know how.
I don’t know how I can even help you with this.
Cause even I, having a hard time trying.
And I’m getting tired of it.

I don’t know what exactly I must do.
Maybe I don’t need to know.
Maybe I must just take it slow.
I know it won’t be easy of course.
But I must take it slow.

Oh well. That’s life I guess.
We can’t expect things to always go the way we wanted it to be.
There will be ups and downs.
But always look for the good side.

All of this maybe has a better reason.
It could make us stronger.
It builds our character.
It gives us a chance to look for other perspectives.

So it is possible to unlove someone?

Maybe not, cause that person has always a special place in your heart.
And it will always be.

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