THIS. Did I write this? I live for feedback, and sometimes, after fishing for some, just straight up ask “how am I doing?” This should be helpful, except when the response is “fine?” and the person I asked seems confused about my asking. All that does is send me into a doubt spiral which, consequently, does make me worse at my job.
I have been told multiple times that I am great at my job. So why is it that I have been conditioned to believe that’s not true? And emotional detachment isn’t possible for me - if I don’t care about what I do, I won’t do it.
So I get where you’re coming from, and provide you with a high five and a “great job!” because sometimes, that’s all we need to restore our faith in ourselves.