I don’t think you should work on not doing it. If that’s you, do you. Something about that article you were commenting on smacks of presumption. It’s “gameness” rests on the other person being condescending, male, and full of shit. As someone else pointed out, if someone doesn’t want to talk to you AND they don’t know you very well, they really ought to just say, ‘don’t want to talk about that, sorry’, rather than fuck with you as if they knew all about you.