Putting labels on people is so limiting. Your initial assumptions are too manichaean to embrace the depth of relationships, be it romantic or anything else. It’s like looking an answer to metaphysic comparing monotheism to polytheism or having two categories to classify the billions of DNA combinations that are living human beings. The answer is within you and even more unique to each relationship. Assigning yourself a tag might be reassuring but won’t help you grow in your love life.