What I learnt from relatives’ death

At first, we saw people’s death on the TV, news papers. Then we saw photos from elder friends who lost their love ones. Then finally one day, we found ourselves standing in the middle of a funeral and witness someone’s death, someone that used to play a role in our life.

That’s how life reveal its true nature to us, little by little, from a tiny golden fish as we thought it was, to a giant shark that empty our heart and eat up all our emotion.

The truth is, people die, no matter who they are and how important they mean to us, as normal as the traffic jam 3 blocks away from your apartment every morning, or the butcher next to your building cleaning his bloody table and closing his shop every afternoon at 6.

No one can prevent people from dying, but sometimes, we can choose to take a positive attitude when we heart the bad news. First of all, we should stop feeling sorry. Life is short, no matter what we did ( not spending enough time, being a rebel at young ages… ). Secondly, death is not that heavy, when we think differently.

We’ve been losing our friends, relatives (in digital life): people meet, spend time together then separate into different geographic zones. In modern age, thanks to social media, people are still connected. But someday somehow, your friend change his number or you delete your social media accounts by accident, then suddenly, the connection is broken and you can’t reach each other anymore. You know your friend is probably living his life somewhere and sometimes when you think about him, you may want to know how’s life going on for him. But that thought gone quickly as soon as you begin to worry about your job, your Christmas shopping or your bills.

For those people who aren’t active anymore on social media, someday, we are going to forget their faces behind the pseudos, until we completely forget who they are. And you will see how similar that death could be compares to an ordinary separation. After all, being alive is just a possibility to contact others.

A man lost one leg might still want to stand up and run from their wheel chair because he used to have two legs. We are still feeling painful when people die, because we get used to have that human connection. It’s only a matter of time to realize that the connection is broken.

Life is short compares to the endless time. People die, and one day we will go into dirt ourselves. Instead of being painful, try to take it lightly and seize our lives. That’s what I learnt.