Whole-ass one thing.
“Never half-ass two things. Whole-ass one thing.” — Ron Swanson
Ahh, the wise words of The Man himself, Ron Swanson. Ron, you get me. When I watched that episode last night, I could immediately relate it to the #struggles of being 23 and the uncertainties of where today could lead me. If one thing is true, it’s that it’s crucial to put 100% effort into everything you do. That means work, building/maintaining friendships and relationships, and whatever else you value highly. If it’s less than 100%, it’s time to reevaluate why you’re putting in any effort in the first place.
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about priorities and goals, and how to balance them. Where do I want to be? Is it worth it? Will this action come back to bite me later? Only persistence and hard work will tell you the answer to those questions.
It is no secret that I am a person who always likes to be busy and productive — whether that’s with work, friends, family, or school, I always have something going on. I’ve never been one to sit back and wait for things to happen. I make things happen. Do I keep this busy to weed out feelings, thoughts, bs, and people that aren’t good for me? Guilty. Do I also feel a sense of pride when I choose to pursue things that could have potential? Yes. That’s because I choose wisely and give it my all. In other words, I have zero time or interest in any bs mind games that adults shouldn’t (but do) play. Recent weeks have made that notion especially clear, as I have been conflicted with trying to make room for these priorities, wants, and needs, while still trying to have FUN. Because what is life without fun?
Of course, I put work first. I’ve been out of school for only two years now, so I have to absorb every ounce of experience that I can. More than work, though, is trying to build a career for myself. The last couple of years have showed me that it’s not exactly easy to get to where you want to be in marketing — in Maine, nonetheless. Have you seen the competition out there?! If you dabble in the field you’ll know what I mean. I’ve heard it multiple times… “just get out of Maine,” or, my personal favorite, “it’s time to rethink your choice.” First of all, no. I’m a Mainer and always will be. Sorry, but unless I’m with someone serious who is moving, I’d like to keep adventuring in our beautiful state. Yes, Maine isn’t great for the job force, but it is great for exploring and getting outside. And that’s the center of my social life and happiness. Second, I would never want to work in a field that I didn’t love. To me, that is marketing the brands that I am passionate about.
Since being two years in the “real world,” I have had the time of my life. I’ve met more wonderful people than I know what to do with. Sure, I’ve half-assed a few things, but for the most part, I put every effort into what I’m trying to accomplish at the time. I’ve worked my butt of to network, meet relevant people, and try to get a career path established. So far, things seem to be moving in the right direction. Baby steps, people.
While I am on the topic of priorities and effort — family, friends, and saving time for almost-relationships (so disappointing, boys*) are all on the same level as the career. I can’t tell you how important it is to carve out time with your friends and family, no matter how busy you are. Although I am working and going to school, I still prioritize my time to make room for these relationships to grow. Even if we are just sitting around a fire, it’s the quality time and laughs that’s most important.
And then there are the special people we “talk” to. Yeahhh, talking. The word of the generation. What even is that? Pure confusion, that’s what it is. Regardless, if you have been “talking” to someone steadily, please do everyone a favor and put in effort. Talk to only that person, and really get to know them. Remember, if you find yourself catching feelings (woooofff), you have no choice but to make an effort. One of my biggest pet peeves is to see something with so much potential go to waste because someone decided to get lazy or afraid about it. Again, this all goes back to the point of whole-assing one thing — not two, three, or four things.
The fact of the matter is that we’re all busy, but it comes down to priorities, goals, and effort in the end. If you want to see someone, you will find a way. Period. If you have your sights set at working at a particular company, you will do what you have to do to get there.
Commitment is being involved in the present, and putting 100% into what’s happening in that moment. For quality relationships, knowledge, getting ahead, and overall happiness, put your best foot forward with whatever you do.