Thanks for writing something that speaks to me and my heart. It reminds me of another article I read some time ago where the writer was reporting about how Buddhist nuns lived falling in love: what does this person have that I don’t, but could have? What are the gems in my soul that he or she is making me yearn to unearth? What are the petty weaknesses that are making this relationship hard and the rest of my life harder? Pain then perhaps just becomes a beacon to where we need to go inside ourselves.