Why I’m Absolutely an Angry Black Woman
Dominique Matti

A friend of mine, a white woman with two black children, posted this on Facebook and added the comment: “Because even my most liberal white friends are largely silent when I post or talk about stuff like this, about racism and injustice… yet they say they love us and I am supposed to accept that.”

One of her friends replied: “I say this with so much love, Betsy, but it’s mostly because I don’t know how to respond that I do not reply on your racial injustice postings. I agree that there is so much white privilege in our country, and there are barriers to overcome, but there is not a damn thing I can personally do to change the big picture. It won’t help if my own heart and mind are open, or even if I have tried to raise my kids to be open-minded and mindful. We are looking at 300+ years of ingrained racism in our country, and there are many countries with even longer histories of it. Most times, postings about racial injustice make whites feel guilty, and I don’t see that helping anything, either. It’s like trying to make somebody feel badly for something another person did. The helplessness can be overwhelming and bring so much undeserved guilt, so it’s easier to skim past it. Just throwing in my two cents, and I am pretty sure there are folks out there who do not know me who would say I am part of the problem.”

My reply: “Amy I don’t know you but I want to reply and say it definitely will help if your heart and mind are open and you CAN do things personally. You can open the conversation with your friends, family and colleagues. You can comment when you see something atrocious and start to break down the silence that lets people think it’s ok to look the other way or perpetuate racism. You’re one of the most powerful players in the game. Your silence leaves room for hatred and the painful sublties that this young woman presented for us. It took bravery for you to reply to this post. Notice the things she pointed out for us and then use that bravery to challenge the people who naively or purposely perpetuate these situations.”

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