When a friend texted me a few months ago to see if I wanted to go to Beyonce with her, I didn’t think twice and jumped at the chance. I went in the clothes I’d gone to work in (comfortable) and wore the amount of makeup I wear to work (none). We had a couple of drinks and a bite to eat, and then walked over to the show. It was all pretty mellow.

Usually when I go to music, it’s a folk-ish show in a listening room. I sit, and I might sip on a drink, and I …


Every weekend for about month, I’ve been going through all those boxes in the basement that I have moved from place to place for years. I keep moving them, half because I didn’t make the time to go through them — and half because I assumed that I had them all for a reason and that I’d need all that stuff. Someday.

But this year, we made a decision to move from a 3 bedroom house (with a basement and a garage) to a 2 bedroom apartment — and the purge began. We began in earnest to go through every…


Photo by Robert Bejil

With 23 years of practice under my belt, I feel like I finally learned how to do yoga. And by “do yoga” I’m not referring to my ability to get myself into certain poses, I believe that is ongoing work. Even if you gain the strength and flexibility to do a pose, your body will change over time and your pose will change with it.

What I mean is, it has taken me 23 years to learn how to get on my mat with the right intention to mindfully, correctly practice yoga.

For almost my entire adult life, yoga has…


A couple of years ago, I was invited to a wedding in Portland, Oregon. I rarely pass up an opportunity to spend a few days there, so my boyfriend and I got tickets that would afford us a few days of adventuring. We had no idea how much adventure we were in for.

We left after work on a Wednesday at around 5, got to the airport and were promptly told that due to weather in Denver, we had to make a decision: go home and come back the next day for another flight, or take…


I have been practicing yoga for a long time. One thing I’ve been frustrated with over the years is my inability to maintain a steady practice through all the noise and life that happens and makes it hard to keep going back to the mat. But luckily for me, I’ve figured out that yoga keeps teaching you things even when you aren’t actively practicing.

And luckily for me, I’m learning to forgive myself for my shortcomings.

I started at 19, and in my early 20s I practiced for 60-90 minutes a day, 6 days a week…


One step at a time

A little over four years ago, I co-founded a non-profit organization called Of Scars with my friend Kate Bailey. Kate and I work with breast cancer survivors to find ways to help them improve, or even just comprehend, their life as a breast cancer survivor. Once the medical community has stamped the approval of recovery on them, they are sent on their way back out to their lives — but their lives are frankly never the same. One of the things we do with the little community we have created is to hold monthly discussion groups and…


In Response to “The Lost Art of Management”

I have a response to the article, The Lost Art of Management by Alex Chuang. When I read this article I said YAY!!! to myself. I have so often in the past been at the place that thinks if you are good at your job, you should be promoted and you will be good at managing others who are in that same job.

And like Alex Chuang, I think that’s a fallacy. It’s not a good assumption to make, and the risks to your business are very high.

But that leaves companies with some significant problems to solve:

• What…


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and I don’t feel bad about it.

Today I was lazy. If you know you me, you know that I had to work really hard to get to Lazy. In the last several years, I had fallen into habits of constant scheduling — back to back meetings all day at work, rushing to get the kids and get dinner, or after school events, or go to the gym. And on the weekends — more work, side projects, professional favors, photo shoots, house cleaning, reorganizing, overcommitting my time. Never saying no. Never just leaving time unscheduled. …

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The Protagonist is a Human Woman.

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