I am so grateful for your presence here. I’m fat (though less fat than I used to be, and less fat than you are), but I have issues with fat acceptance that are, as with many people, based in early socialization and therefore hard to get rid of. But your articles help a lot, both with accepting my own fat and accepting the fat of others, including not saying all those stupid things that people say when they think they’re accepting but really aren’t. I can actually look at my body in the full length mirror and not want to gag. There’s a ways to go, though, and I know it. I’m sorry that I’m still part of the problem, and I will continue to work on this. (At the same time, I am still committed to losing weight, but that’s because it’s the right thing FOR ME, and I don’t need to impose what’s right for me on anyone else.)
That said, I hope you are back to wearing dresses like that magenta knit (I can’t wear something like that, not because it’s flamboyant, but because it’s not a good color for my skin tone). With all my problems, I do dress flamboyantly, including showing my arms, the big no-no for fat women. People cannot miss me coming, however much they might want to. I see people look at me sometimes and I can see their thoughts on their faces. How dare I, a fat woman over 30, show my arms and legs that way? How dare I not disguise my tummy? YOU CAN SEE HER BULGING OMG. I see it. I can’t say I don’t care at all — I do — but I am determined not to change my behavior because of it. So I hope you are also back to dressing flamboyantly.
The last time I responded to one of your articles, a MAN felt it necessary to tell me that I was fat. I blocked him. Today I unblocked him. You know what, if he is so stupid as to think I don’t know that I’m fat, that’s his problem, not mine.
