Why Crafting the Right Words is so Important for Your Health
The moment you construct a sentence in your mind, you create your very own reality.
I got inspired by motivational author and speaker Louise Hay to write down these words. Having been a journalist, writer and editor throughout my entire adult life, I never looked at constructing sentences this way! All I cared about was grammar, clarity, logic and effectiveness of communication. Never had I thought about the metaphysical meanings behind crafting words — in our minds.
Here is what Hay has said in one of her many inspirational speeches:
If we want a joyous life, we must think joyous thoughts. Whatever we send out mentally or verbally will come back to us in like form.
The way to control your life is to control your choice of words and thoughts. No one thinks in your mind but you.
As I started to practice affirmations several years ago, it became clear to me that our words, which originate from our thoughts, which in turn come from the core of our being, not only reflect who we are and what we aspire to become, but also create the reality we find ourselves in, moment by moment.
That’s why it is so important to make the right choice and tone for the words and sentences that we use — especially those that fill our minds during our conscious moments.
Talk to Yourself Right
Last year, I underwent a major surgery. During my recuperation, I came upon these words printed on the paper label of a tea bag:
To be healthy:
And talk to yourself right
This advice gave me a light-bulb moment.
There are a million different ways to eat and exercise in order to become healthier, but all of these would not suffice if we didn’t practice honest and positive self-talk. I am saying this from my own experience. I consider myself eating in a healthier way than the majority of the population where I live. I also have a pretty healthy lifestyle, although I could exercise a bit more.
But when it comes to “talk right,” I had only started to do so shortly after my surgery. I realized that prior to my surgery, my mind was either in a constant loop of negative self-talk or in a perpetual mode of anxiety and worries. I didn’t even have to look for negative thoughts to fill my mind. They were there automatically. Why was that? I believe these thoughts first came into my subconscious mind through the voice of my mother, which was dominant in my childhood, and I just sponged it all up. This voice permeated my entire consciousness when growing up, and it didn’t leave me until quite recently. I would say most of these thoughts are false beliefs but they stuck and I believed in them anyway, no matter how irrational they were. Some thoughts can’t even be “categorized” as negative, but the consequences were negative on my health and well-being. For example, every time I had a meal, a voice in my head would tell me to hurry up and finish eating as soon as possible so I could “get on with my life” — as if eating was just a chore to get over and be done with. No wonder I got digestion and stress issues before.
After the surgery, I found myself talking positively in my mind most of the time. I started hearing the voice of optimism combined with a sense of lightness and humor. Whenever something unpleasant happened to me, I would automatically drift back to the worst ordeal in my life — the surgery and hospitalization — and immediately tell myself to look at the other side of the coin. Let’s say I am having a headache the whole day, I would tell myself, “That’s actually quite mild and I am grateful that I am well enough to still think clearly and work.” For each minor inconvenience or irritation, which would often be escalated into a typhoon or hurricane in my head previously, I would now turn into a thought of blessing. This way, I would feel grateful under any circumstances and skip feeling like a victim of bad luck.
At long last, I have found my own voice — a voice that sprang from the dark abyss of suffering, a voice that replaced my mother’s nagging and negative voice in the back of my mind (which might have originated from her birth during the Second World World and a life time of stress). Finding my own true inner voice, I believe, is a mark of maturity.
The late spiritual author and motivational speaker Dr. Wayne Dyer once said the most important and powerful words in the entire universe are “I am.” This phrase defines how you view your life and thus, how you experience it. I am consciously trying to put this into action, without feigning positivity. I have realized that positive affirmations — the kind that Louise Hay has been preaching for decades — does work, but with a caveat: It works only if you truly feel it. The universe can feel the vibration of your being without hearing the actual words. My experience has confirmed that if I don’t honestly feel positive and then try to self-talk myself something positive, it wouldn’t work.
Now I have come to a stage in which I truly feel grateful for being alive. Every little detail — even what is commonly perceived as an obstacle — is a joy instead of a drag, a learning opportunity instead of a setback. I have seen how a small, positive and grateful thought always materializes into something positive. There is no other way. A positive vibration will always bring forth more positive vibrations. If you experience otherwise, watch for that minuscule speck of negative vibration at the back of your mind and in the bottom of your heart. Perhaps you have a molecule of fatalistic thought that good things won’t come to you. See if you can flip that around. Try it. You might be pleasantly surprised.
Louisa Wah Hansen is a writer and editor with 20 years’ experience in journalism and publishing. See her online portfolio here. She blogs about health, personal growth and ballet, as well as runs a health coaching business. If you’re interested in her recipes, health tips and more, please sign up for her newsletter here.