I went on a date the other day with a guy who was in school with me. I wasn’t aware of this when I matched with him on Tinder, I had no clue who he was. But he recognised me.
Naturally, as this fact came up in conversation, we ended up reminiscing about our school days during the date — which was all well and good until he said those dreaded four words, “I miss those days.”
The red flags went off in my head, “Yeah, they were fun but life’s so much better now.”
“I don’t know — I think I peaked.” It’s a statement no one really wants to hear from a potential partner. And based off his expression it's not something anyone wants to admit to. However, the way he said it with acceptance rather than defeat made me believe he really had peaked. His honesty really would’ve been quite attractive had it been in a different context. …
My ex was a narcissist — cue eye-roll. I’m aware that statement makes me sound like someone who is simply bitter over a lost love, playing into the resentful ex stereotype. But whether you choose to take my word for it or not, for two years of my life I was committed to a toxic and unfair relationship.
We had been dating for less than a year when I realised this fact, but it wasn’t until the two-year mark that I was finally able to escape. …
In Japan, broken objects are often repaired with gold — an art form known as Kintsugi. The artist will mend the areas of breakage with a liquid mixed with gold, silver or platinum, creating a design from the breakage.
The breaks in the pottery are seen as a unique part of its history, adding to its beauty. Rather than trying to hide these flaws, the art form embraces them. Every imperfection contributes to the strength and character of the pottery — their highlighted scars add value.
From this art form concept, there’s a message we can all benefit from — a metaphor of sorts. In the process of repairing what has been broken, we can create something stronger, add to its existing character and beauty. Something that is broken isn’t something that should be thrown away. …