The first step to finding your Purpose
You’ve made your last excuse, you’ve given your last reason, life is no longer going to get in your way. Life is the only thing that happens. You’re the controller and the creator, consciously or unconsciously.
Life only gets in the way for people who aren’t living purposefully.
I know people get sick, babies are born, tough times fall. Maybe these things weren’t planned for. It’s an easy excuse, but it doesn’t have to be the reason why you couldn’t execute. It’s a poor mindset that takes you out of control.
No more excuses, reasons, complaining. The first step to finding your purpose is to live purposefully. That means taking complete ownership over everything that’s on your plate.
It’s rare you see someone who isn’t in control of their life all of a sudden fall into their dream job and relationship. No one gets lucky in that sense.
Your purpose doesn’t fall out of the sky.
You gradually create it by living purposefully.
That means you learn how to decide.
You decide to go to work
You might be thinking, “What do you mean? I go to work everyday.”
One of my biggest pet peeve’s is hearing someone talk about their job in a negative, victim-like way. You might not even notice you’re doing it when you say things like, “Ughhh I have to go work.”
I understand there are rules to follow if you want to stay employed but please, take back your power. You’re the ultimate decision maker. You don’t “have” to go to work. You “choose” to go to work. There is a purpose behind it right? Your paycheck is valuable, isn’t it?
Make the decision and be grateful. I write more about this in a previous post.
You decide how you’re going to show up
To work, to dinner, to LIFE. Make a choice that you’re going to show up for others in a way that is engaging, open, and caring. You always have the opportunity to create the experience. Choose to be the person everyone gravitates to and is excited to see.
If you feel bored in a conversation you’re the one who is boring. If you’re disinterested, it’s because you haven’t tried hard enough to care. You can choose to make every encounter a fun life enhancing experience, or you can continue with the same meaningless chit chat.
Sometimes you’re so tranced in your own life you lose sight of genuinely engaging with others. You lose sight of the opportunity that’s right in front of you.
Do you consciously think how you show up, or are you on auto-pilot?
You decide your environment
Physical, emotional, spiritual. Everything that is on your plate is there because you put it there. Take responsibility for it, stop blaming it on your circumstances.
You know the person who blames their situation on the way they were raised? It’s their Mom or Dad’s fault that they are unhappy with the way their life turned out. That person has given up responsibility and is content making excuses.
Or maybe you just “don’t have the time.” It’s not that you don’t have the time, it’s that you haven’t made it a priority to make the time.
Decide what TV shows you watch or not watch, what books you read, and who you let influence your life. Do these mediums encourage you, or do they leave you hesitant and fearful? Your mind is a computer and you are the programmer.
Take account of all the influences you have coming into your life and ask what place they have. Is playing 5 hours of World of Warcraft helping you succeed in your career?
How are your influences serving you? You may have to make the decision to change what you don’t like or add new positive ones.
You decide your thoughts
Your old thought patterns of what’s possible and what isn’t has you in jail. Why think about the things that could go wrong and the reasons you’re un-capable? It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Would a programmer intentionally run virus loops in a computer? Then why are you poisoning your mind with I cant’s and I shouldn’ts? Here is where the influences you let in help mold the thoughts that come out.
The uber cliche phrase, “believe and you can achieve” is uber cliche because it’s so vital. You will never get what you don’t think you can have.
Meditation helps for re-wiring positive thought patterns. I’ll have guided meditations coming on my Youtube channel.
You decide there’s no other choice
I’ve been telling people this a lot recently. It may come off extreme, but it’s what I know. There are 1 of 2 things that will happen. I will be successful living my calling, or I will die. Whichever happens first I am fine with.
While you might not be at my do or die mindset, that doesn’t mean you can’t rule out other possibilities. Make the decision of what you want and don’t stop until it comes to fruition. If you don’t know what you want, simply decide you are stopping at nothing until you find out.
At the end of the day it doesn’t matter what you do, it matters who you are.
Making the decision to live a purpose driven life is what transforms you into a better person. You become more, and are able to give more to others.
Finding your purpose isn’t a math equation. It’s a journey and constant evolution. Life gives the purpose driven person what they want and it also directs them to where they need to be.
Make decisions often. Live life purposefully.
Then let your purpose find you.