He wasn’t his TV show character. Behind his public persona, he was a regular, flawed human.

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These days, you can see broadcasts of celebrities’ daily lives through platforms like Twitter, Snapchat, and Instagram. At any moment in time, we can glimpse at minutiae like what they eat for breakfast, what they use to wash their faces, or what their bedrooms look like.

When we see them as frequently as we do, we reach a point where we subconsciously blur the line between fantasy and reality. We forget they’re doing their job and putting on a well-liked persona to appeal to the masses. Whatever the rich and famous show us on social media is exactly what they want us to see. …


While this may sound like celebrity gossip to some, as a sexual assault survivor, this news feels personal.

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(Transformers director Michael Bay and actress Megan Fox) Source

In 2007, the massive blockbuster hit Transformers was released, starring Megan Fox and Shia LaBeouf, and directed by Michael Bay. Megan Fox, then 21-years-old, played the breathtakingly gorgeous sidekick/love interest Mikaela Banes, to LaBeouf’s nerdy character of Sam Witwicky. Transformers made $709 million worldwide, and the live-action film thrust its two stars onto the cover of every magazine cover that year.

Fox and LaBeouf came back for the sequel, Revenge of the Fallen (2009), but when the third installment of this popular franchise was announced, it was announced Fox would not reprise her role of Mikaela Banes.

It was a shock to fans everywhere to see Fox walk away from the franchise that gave her her big break.


And how sharing my personal life online played an important role in healing my religious trauma.

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I know it’s been quite some time since I’ve written a personal essay as Jessica Lovejoy. For me, it doesn’t really feel like I’ve been away because I’m still logging in every day as an editor for Fearless She Wrote. But a few of you have noticed that I’ve stopped writing and you’ve asked why I’m no longer around.

Well, I am still writing. Trust me, the writer in me will never go away. And I’m elated that in my highs and my lows, my immediate response is always to write. …


A poem

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Photo by Julia Caesar on Unsplash

escape my mind
run away with the sun
briefly and bravely
as you do
but I’ll wish you back
into existence
it’s forever golden with you

and when you return
be still, my heart
as sure as the moon and stars
together at last
together and free
to be alone but not
left with a choice
you look at us
and breathe life back into me

the fear of what never was
what couldn’t be —
it was golden too
for your touch is
tattooed upon my skin
and in the yellow sun,
I’ll say, good morning love
your eager eyes
look how I feel
when I’m with you
— golden.


Thorne may have affected the app’s guidelines and the potential earnings of countless sex workers.

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It’s only been a week since actress Bella Thorne joined OnlyFans, the popular subscription-based social media app that’s described as “more or less like a hardcore version of Patreon.”

Through OnlyFans, creators can offer photos, videos, and messaging to their paid subscribers. It is not just an adult-content site, although this app has quickly become synonymous with sex workers; SWers can use the platform to post nude and semi-nude videos and photos and offer sexting and other adult content to their paying fans.

Besides the pay-per-view earnings (up to $200 per view), content creators can also receive tips, similar to the tips at a strip club. In case anyone forgot, we are in the middle of a global pandemic, and most strip clubs and adult entertainment venues are closed around the world. …


Your friendly neighborhood feminists have started a podcast!

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Fearless She Spoke

Hello Fearless readers and writers!

As you know, it’s been a little over a year since Maggie, Gillian, and I came together to create the online publication Fearless She Wrote. The three of us never imagined we would grow so much as survivors and writers through this online community. We truly could not do what we do without the incredible stories that our Fearless writers share every day.

We are constantly working to make this publication bigger and better, and the only logical next step for us was to join the podcasting world to continue the important conversations you see take place in our pub every day. …


Why we need to do a better job of curating our online content.

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In our image-obsessed culture, we’re appeased by likes and impressed by a large following on Instagram. We look to people we’ve never met for validation of our body, our homes, our relationships.

How did it get this way? Well, social media has certainly aided in society’s obsession with unattainable beauty, unrealistic bodies, and eternal youth— strategically advertised mostly by thin, attractive, young white women. Is it any wonder that so many of us who belong in the ‘other’ category struggle with our self-esteem?

Instagram in particular has been named in countless studies showing a correlation between the app and negative self-image and poor self-esteem.


If you use the bible to vindicate your prejudiced beliefs, you should know it’s not having the effect you intended.

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To give a brief background, I was raised in a strict Catholic home that revolved heavily around our local parish. I recall the homophobic undertones in the sermons after sexual misconduct allegations against priests in our diocese surfaced. I remember how our church leaders encouraged members to attend (and organize) protests at abortion clinics. My personal experience with religion was full of fear, guilt, and shame used to indoctrinate anyone who listened. Although it’s a much longer story that I write about extensively in my published essays, ultimately, I left the church at 17.

Since then, I’ve made tremendous progress in my healing and I can fully appreciate the beauty of religion without attaching my personal experience to it. I can understand the sense of community and support and recognize the significance of organized religion for some people. While it’s not for me, I have nothing against those who believe. …


Why hasn’t this movie been removed by the streaming giant?

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Trigger Warning: this article discusses sexual assault, abuse, and violence that may not be suitable for all readers. Fearless community, please read with care.

I heard of the Netflix movie 365 Days around the time of its release in June 2020. The person who mentioned the movie to me advised me not to watch it, as it was disturbing and triggering to them and they imagined I might be disturbed too.

365 Days (365 DNI) is a Polish movie, based on the book of the same name, where a woman falls victim to a dominant mafia boss, who imprisons her and gives her one year to fall in love with him. …


Another celebrity accused of pursuing underage girls. But unlike Chris D’Elia, fans are rushing to defend Elgort.

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Trigger Warning: this article discusses sexual assault involving minors. It may not be suitable for all readers. Fearless community, please read with care.

Just yesterday, I wrote a piece about the sexual harassment allegations against American actor Chris D’Elia made by several underage girls. He’s denied the claims since even though various online users posted screenshots and email threads of conversations and interactions with the actor while they were minors, with proof that D’Elia was made aware of their age.

I believe the girls who came forward because it is the right thing to do. Since the news broke out about D’Elia, many girls have posted stories online that are so similar in nature — in the things he said, the way he’d berate them for not replying, the way he’d ask them for pictures. And when someone comes forward, I believe them because I know what it’s like to be dismissed. …

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Jessica Lovejoy

Writer & editor telling stories about healing, relationships, and self-love. Co-editor of Fearless She Wrote. Let’s chat: jlovejoywrites@gmail.com

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