The brainwashing tactics used by the Church of Scientology were also present in my Catholic upbringing.

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I’ve spent the last two years writing online about recovering from religious trauma and the aftermath of my leaving the Catholic Church at 17. Looking back, my decision to write publicly about my healing journey was the best thing I ever did for myself. I’m not sure what I was looking for, or what I thought would happen by sharing my very vulnerable and personal pain on the internet, but writing about my feelings came naturally to me. Writing and praying always came easy to me. But I was no longer someone who prayed. So, I wrote instead.

I was in high school when I could no longer deny my disapproval of Catholicism, not to myself or my parents. I didn’t believe in the teachings of the church and I was angry after so many years of unanswered questions about certain Catholic beliefs and practices surrounding women’s rights, LGBTQ rights, and sexual abstinence. And of course, the constant cover-up of sexual abuse in the Catholic Church. …


It’s only been 3 weeks of mourning my best friend; I’m not sure if I’m ready to love another dog yet.

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About 3 weeks ago, I lost my best friend.

Coping with Neville’s death is more difficult than I ever imagined it would be.

As pet owners, when we make the decision to bring an animal into our lives, we accept that they will not live forever. But when our furry friends are young, healthy, and energetic, we don’t think about their death. We don’t think about how much longer we have with them. We live in the moment, we cherish their company, and we love them as much as humanly possible.

It’s when they get older, slower, and tired that we begin to think about their passing. Neville was almost 12, and he was definitely showing signs of aging. But I never expected to lose him so suddenly. …


After years of scary vet visits, I sat down and wrote this letter to my rescue pup, Neville; he passed just 3 months later.

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When will we stop asking artists to work for exposure, especially accomplished Black actors like Haddish?

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Tiffany Haddish is an accomplished actress, producer, stand-up comic, and author. She keeps an impressive portfolio of television and film appearances on The Carmichael Show, Keanu, Night School, Like A Boss, and most famously 2017’s award-winning Girls Trip, in which she starred beside Queen Latifah, Jada Pinkett Smith, and Regina Hall. In 2019, ABC revived the show Kid’s Say the Darndest Things, which Haddish hosted and produced. She even got her own comedy special on Showtime, Tiffany Haddish: She Ready! From the Hood to Hollywood.

Haddish keeps it very real, and she’s funny as hell doing it. It’s no wonder why she’s in such high demand in Hollywood, nor is it surprising that she would be offered the job of hosting the 2021 Grammy’s pre-telecast Premiere Ceremony, a live stream virtual event. …


She came forward to show that “even a critically acclaimed artist with money” could be caught in an abusive relationship.

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Today, musician FKA Twigs, born Tahliah Debrett Barnett, filed a lawsuit in Los Angeles against actor Shia LaBeouf, her former boyfriend. Barnett and LaBeouf dated for one year after meeting in 2018 on the set of LaBeouf’s movie Honeyboy.

Barnett is suing for sexual battery, assault, and infliction of emotional distress.

Per the New York Times, Barnett explains that from the very beginning of their romantic relationship, “he came on very strong.”

This is a phase that is common in toxic relationships with narcissistic partners and is sometimes referred to as the honeymoon phase.

The honeymoon phase can last anywhere from a few months to a few years — and it usually looks like an intense display of love in the beginning stages of a romantic relationship. These intense, even overwhelming, displays of affection are also known as “love bombing.” What happens in the honeymoon phase is the abuser showers his partner with undivided attention, gifts, compliments, and sweet promises. The victim is more often than not impressed and flattered by the intensity of their feelings, sometimes admitting later that no one ever loved them the way this person did. …


And how sharing my personal life online played an important role in healing my religious trauma.

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I know it’s been quite some time since I’ve written a personal essay as Jessica Lovejoy. For me, it doesn’t really feel like I’ve been away because I’m still logging in every day as an editor for Fearless She Wrote. But a few of you have noticed that I’ve stopped writing and you’ve asked why I’m no longer around.

Well, I am still writing. Trust me, the writer in me will never go away. And I’m elated that in my highs and my lows, my immediate response is always to write. …


Thorne may have affected the app’s guidelines and the potential earnings of countless sex workers.

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It’s only been a week since actress Bella Thorne joined OnlyFans, the popular subscription-based social media app that’s described as “more or less like a hardcore version of Patreon.”

Through OnlyFans, creators can offer photos, videos, and messaging to their paid subscribers. It is not just an adult-content site, although this app has quickly become synonymous with sex workers; SWers can use the platform to post nude and semi-nude videos and photos and offer sexting and other adult content to their paying fans.

Besides the pay-per-view earnings (up to $200 per view), content creators can also receive tips, similar to the tips at a strip club. In case anyone forgot, we are in the middle of a global pandemic, and most strip clubs and adult entertainment venues are closed around the world. …


Your friendly neighborhood feminists have started a podcast!

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Fearless She Spoke

Hello Fearless readers and writers!

As you know, it’s been a little over a year since Maggie, Gillian, and I came together to create the online publication Fearless She Wrote. The three of us never imagined we would grow so much as survivors and writers through this online community. We truly could not do what we do without the incredible stories that our Fearless writers share every day.

We are constantly working to make this publication bigger and better, and the only logical next step for us was to join the podcasting world to continue the important conversations you see take place in our pub every day. …


Why we need to do a better job of curating our online content.

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In our image-obsessed culture, we’re appeased by likes and impressed by a large following on Instagram. We look to people we’ve never met for validation of our body, our homes, our relationships.

How did it get this way? Well, social media has certainly aided in society’s obsession with unattainable beauty, unrealistic bodies, and eternal youth— strategically advertised mostly by thin, attractive, young white women. Is it any wonder that so many of us who belong in the ‘other’ category struggle with our self-esteem?

Instagram in particular has been named in countless studies showing a correlation between the app and negative self-image and poor self-esteem.

About

Jessica Lovejoy

Writer & editor telling stories about healing, relationships, and self-love. Co-editor of Fearless She Wrote. Let’s chat: jlovejoywrites@gmail.com

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