Performative allyship is self-serving
It is the shield that protects white privilege and maintains the status quo. It is is most often seen in liberal presenting white women — BEWARE! Performative allies take the stance that benefits them and makes them look good in the moment. The minute their privilege is threatened and their identity is attacked they are no longer willing to be an ally, thus resorting back to their colonial ways.
Are you true ally or a performative ally? Are you willing to sacrifice your power, wealth, and privilege to create a more equitable and just world?
Integrity means that you are the same in public as you are in private.
Why is it so hard for you to talk about racism?
Why do you feel attacked, offended, or uncomfortable when the topic is conversation is racism in America?
Why do you never know what to say?
Why do you cry when black people share their frustrations of being tokenized, discriminated against or stereotyped?
Why do you feel white guilt?
Why should I care if you feel white guilt?
Why do you always feel the need to defend yourself and the good “not-racist” white people you know?
Why do you not see yourself in this system that both you and I…
I challenge you to use your voice and your power and join us in this fight to end institutionalized racism and systemic oppression. I challenge you to create a safe space for your black colleagues and friends to freely express themselves, without co-opting their lived experiences and masking their pain by expressing guilt. I challenge you to listen and to embrace discomfort, because even though facing inequality or injustice is not your reality, it is someone else’s. Furthermore, I urge you to not get distracted by the rioters and the looters, and to remember the real reason for these protests…
You ask me why I’m angry.
I will tell you it’s because my brothers and sisters are being murdered in cold blood because of the color of their skin. If your follow-up question is to ask me, “Well, how do you know it’s because they are black?” The fact that you even think it necessary to ask such a primitive question tells me you have no real understanding of white privilege and have not been properly educated on the history of systemic oppression and racism in the United States, and it is frustrating that we have to constantly educate you…