Have you ever asked for help at home? Parents are the super heroes. What does it take to get you to the doctor? Maybe not much. But why is it so hard to ask for help at work or other places for professional or personal reasons?How do you feel about asking other people for help?
It’s been a big part of my need to prove my independence: I feel more comfortable figuring things out by myself.
Requesting assistance from classmates, coworkers or friends, whether it be for a project or to do a favor for our personal reasons, is something many people have hard time doing.
I’ve noticed that many of us, including myself, get a little careful about asking for help, assistance or support. When it comes to reaching out for people, I tend to think over and over again about how I should do it. Sometimes I hesitate about asking for support because I think that I’m the only one who can do it the right way for myself. Other times I get insecure because I don’t want to look like a clueless person asking for help. I also don’t want to bother them or annoy them by asking to do a favor for me on their precious time. As a result, I get so stressed out while trying to do everything myself. Requesting support can often make us feel vulnerable. We usually think that we should be able to do everything ourselves, because we don’t want to be seen as weak people. Also, we often get sensitive about being told “no” and by asking others to help us we put ourselves out there and risk being rejected.
However, while I was working on my Kickstarter project to raise $1000 for my Entrepreneur class at SVA, I’ve learned to ask for help, a lot. The most beautiful thing I’ve learned is that most of us love to help others. In the beginning, I was trying to do everything on my own. I questioned, suffered and wondered alone. However, it quickly got to a point that I could not handle everything. I needed more feedback on my products, had to reach out to more people and I needed more backers. I had to ask for advice, feedback, support, help and even funding for my project and realized that most of people are very supportive and feel happy to help. Quickly after asking for help, my life became so much easier. I felt more confident about my design decisions because I was getting enough positive feedback, my project got way more backers because people were sharing my posts on Facebook and Twitter.
I’ve learned that we are worthy of other people’s support and that our ability to both ask for and receive it not only supports us, but also gives them an opportunity to contribute their own input. It also strengthens the relationship that you have with them. Once you open up and show them that you trust their opinion, advice, support and help, they would only appreciate it. And of course, I’ve decided to gladly support anyone who needs my help!