Ways To Resolve Inner Conflict

Perhaps you’ve identified a part of you that wants to be a certain way, and another part of you that then ends up doing the opposite.

It’s a similar feeling to having a supermarket trolley with 3 aligned wheels, and 1 that just veers off track…it takes a lot of energy to keep that trolley going in the direction you want, doesn’t it?

Through working with clients over the years, I’ve seen a few common approaches to working with these ‘wayward’ parts, usually involving some degree of negative self-talk, anger, or using your conscious mind to ‘force’ that (unconscious) part of you to change.

The truth is, a lot of conditioning around how we approach overcoming internal conflict happens when we are very young, between the ages of 3–7 years old. Reflect on how those who were around you during that time resolved their own inner conflict.

When you approach these unconscious parts of you with self-compassion, you open a doorway to true healing.

When you recognise that this part of you is an invitation to explore your deeper emotional needs, you enter a portal for lasting change.

How does the shift in approach feel in your body?