Not particularly

The art of going with the current on your own terms

There is a growing number of people in our society who ‘are not particularly’ this or ‘not particularly’ that.

‘I’m not particularly’ is easy and it’s for cowards.

‘I’m not’, on the other hand, is an act of bravery.

‘I’m not particularly’ is used by those who care deeply how others might perceive them and that they might be excluded.

‘I’m not’ is used by those who have the guts to be different and don’t care whether others will want to exclude them.

A perfect example of this approach to life is when those who subscribed to it say I’m not particularly religious.

They want to be both followers and non-followers.

They want to be able to choose when they’re being religious.

They still want to be a part of their pack but at the same time they want to be able to decide what part of it they’ll accept.

They know that saying ‘I’m not religious’ would be too uncomfortable and risky. It would immediately create friction and trigger the disagreeable looks and questions of their relatives and a number of awkward social situations.

They and their children usually observe all the religious holidays or take part in holy sacraments and frequent the church or other places where the teachings and congregations take place, but they don’t find it necessary to live in accordance with those teachings.

They get married in a church, baptize their children and sign them up for the Holy Communion (or other sacraments) but that’s more or less the only instances you would see them in that church (or other places of worship).

Being able to be both a follower and a non-follower is becoming a popular solution among those who don’t know exactly why they should be followers but at the same time don’t want to upset their relatives and invite the friction into their lives. It’s the art of going with the current, but on your own terms.

Everybody (including priests) knows and accepts the fact that the majority of people still want to be part of the religious movement (because this still proves to be much more convenient for people if this particular religion has been part of this culture for years) but they are not willing to live like real believers. For the most part they want to be able to choose.

Such attitudes are also generally accepted within the society as they reflect, as many would argue, the gradual changes in our lifestyle over time.

So everybody has learned to treat the statement “I’m not particularly” as something totally fine. We all know that it’s how most people roll in their lives today (because it’s convenient for them to do so) and that we are not supposed to ask questions that might upset or disturb them.

And maybe that’s why nobody asks them. Even those who are in charge of religious movements decide to tolerate the “followers” who want to choose what parts of a certain religion suit them and their families.

‘I’m not particularly’ is a yet another way to live a convenient life. It’s used to communicate to others that we are still part of the same pack and that they can still trust us and socialize with us.


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