Man vs Material
Have you ever been in this situation where you are walking down the street with a group of people and a luxury sports car appeared? I’m sure most of us experienced such an incident before. Typically, a conversation would start and it would be about assuming the background of the driver and other unimportant details about that person.
I experienced that scenario many times. At first I was neutral and didn’t put much thought into it. As my age got larger I began to ponder on such incidents.
Why do we judge a man by his possessions?
It is quite puzzling that most of us judge a person merely on material objects such as cars, houses, watches and attire. By doing that, we are actually putting a price tag to a human rather than the item itself. Shouldn’t it be the other way round? A big house can be built and destroyed repeatedly but we cannot carry out the same process for a human being.
If we know of a respectable person who possess excellent qualities, would we treat that person as our role model? Will the items used by that person be of good quality and standard since it is chosen by that person?
Wealth is not the only common judged trait. Physical beauty is also a common example.
Some of us feel proud and special just because they ‘know’ an attractive-looking person, be it a guy or a girl. For example:
A:Do you know that girl?
B:That girl is my friend! I knew her from ______ a few years back
A: You’re such a lucky guy, I wish I knew someone that attractive
B:Yeah! We used to hangout at _____ and I know some of her secrets.
I am sure that some guys and maybe girls are guilty of such conversations. Both of them are indirectly implying that they have low self esteem and low self-worth.
“A” feels special because he knows that person. “B”, on the other hand, feels that A is special because he knows such an attractive person.
Don’t get me wrong, not all attractive & wealthy people have poor character.
I know of wealthy people who live such a simple life with basic necessities and still be happy and contented without big houses or lavish cars. They do charity work and benefit others. The reason that such people are not common because almost nobody would expect that a person with such qualities can be wealthy. I feel that good deeds such as charity work and helping the poor should not be advertised to others. It is alright if people get to know the good deeds of that person from others but himself.
“People are made to be loved and things are made to be used… The confusion in this world is that people are being used and things are being loved…