Sunday Sentiments: Dealing with Disappointment
Disappointment can be one of the most debilitating emotional responses to overcome. Oftentimes it is the people that are closest to you that are capable of the most damage. Disappointments in marriage, relationships, parenting and friendships are among the most challenging to come to terms with. In your mind, you envision a certain way things should unfold. You think that as long as you do your part, everyone else will do theirs. You trust that what you give is what you will get in return. Wishful thinking. If only life’s challenges were as simple as a 5th grade math problem!
I’ve learned to deal with disappointment by accepting this simple truth: “Disappointment is the distance between reality and expectation.” (Joyce Meyer) Think about it. What is the reality of the situation and what is your expectation of the outcome? If your expectation is high, your disappointment will be greater if it falls short.
Similarly, many of us have heard the expression: “Hope for the best but prepare for the worst.” We are the only ones we can control. People will disappoint you but your response will make you stronger! You can choose to wallow in disappointment or rise above it. The choice is always yours!
One of my favorite sermons was given by Elder Selena Berkeley in the Bronx, NY and it was entitled: “I’m coming out of Dis!” It was a powerful message where she encouraged everyone to stand strong in the Word of God and let go of disappointment and hurt. The Latin prefix dis in itself has a reversing force and negates the affirmative. Consider disability, disrespect, dissatisfy, dishearten and disown — just to name a few. Choose to live in the affirmative and come out of dis mess!
There’s always room for hurt and disappointment when you allow people into your inner circle. It’s a chance we all take as loving, caring individuals who enjoy mutually sincere relationships. There are things that you would never do as a friend so you expect the same respect in return but it doesn’t always work out that way. Friendships come and go — the real ones will endure.
Understand your reality and control your level of disappointment. When disappointments come, and they will, you can still have joy!
Wishing you Peace, Love and Joy unspeakable!