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Illustration by Jayel Draco, from “Tracy Queen, Volume 1” written by Lynsey G.

I wrote a graphic novel about a porn star who does a lot of gangbangs. It might sound degenerate, but I believe that promiscuous women are the biggest badasses around. And hey, I was inspired by science. Allow me to explain.

I had a gig reviewing porn DVDs for an adult magazine back in the late aughts. I’d been doing it for a few years when I started to get a little obsessed with gangbangs. When I’d started out, I was embarrassed to watch them, as many of us raised in a sex-shy culture would be. …


Advice from sexologist, a polyamorist, a porn star and more

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For such a primal act, sex can be really complicated — and it can feel super awkward to ask for help with problems between the sheets. That’s why we’re here to answer your questions, with just the right mix of experts, thinkers and ordinary people who’ve faced similar issues. This is Basic Sex: A column for people who want to nail more than just the fundamentals.


Advice from a real-world-sex curator, a physician, a retired porn star and a kinkster

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For such a basic drive, sex can be really complicated — and it can feel super awkward to ask for help with problems between the sheets. That’s why we’re here to answer your questions, with just the right mix of experts, thinkers and ordinary people who’ve faced similar issues. This is Basic Sex: A column for people who want to nail more than just the fundamentals.

The Basic Concern

I’ve always been insecure about myself and my body, and I’ve always been self-conscious about my “fastness.” Recently, I met someone very special, who I fell for completely. When we arrived at the moment, I was so nervous that things wouldn’t work that I didn’t get hard. She managed to relax me, and we tried again, but it happened again! …


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Lawyers, blockchain experts and sex writers weigh in on LegalFling

Last weekend’s Women’s March saw well over a million people take to the streets around the world to demand change around issues of gender and sexuality. On the minds and signs of many marchers: #MeToo. What began last year with revelations of sexual misconduct by powerful men in the workplace has now broadened to encompass more private interactions, along with long-held, unspoken assumptions about what constitutes sexual consent. The world is demanding a broader, more nuanced conversation about consent, how to recognize it, how to communicate, and how — above all — not to violate it.

The conversation — shrouded as it is in shame, fear and coercion — is trickier than most of us want it to be. That’s why a small but growing number of apps have popped up in recent years with the goal of simplifying it as best they can. …


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For the last eight months, I’ve tracked down smut from every corner of the globe for MEL’s Porn Around the World series. My virtual passport — and search history — has featured trips to Nigeria, the U.K., Brazil, India, Israel, Australia, Turkey and Colombia. In each, I’ve spoken to pornographers, webcam models, academics, politicians and activists about topics as diverse as labor issues, empowerment, media literacy and squirting. (There’s been a lot of squirting talk, actually.)

My main finding is probably the simplest: Interest in porn knows no arbitrary national boundaries. Across every culture, every social and economic class and every governmental attempt to squash it, avid interest in porn exists everywhere. Along the way, though, there have been a ton of other revelations (big and small) as well — some that made it into my dispatches, others that did not. Now, though, as the series (and year) draws to a close, I thought it was as good a time as any to offer up everything I learned from traversing the world in search of porn as well as trying to figure out what that porn said about the people and country who made it. …


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A businessman sits at his desk, busily typing in an airy office. His assistant comes in with coffee. She’s wearing a tiny black satin dress and a faux-fur vest. She sits on his lap and in short order he is fondling her bare breasts — until the doorbell rings. A second woman has entered the lobby and demands to speak to the businessman. After a brief conversation in Spanish, he approaches the second woman. The video cuts to her deep-throating his dick. Meanwhile, the spurned secretary returns to her desk, where she is hit on by a young man who gives her a lollipop. Soon, she’s naked and straddling him on a couch. …


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A short, stout, hairy older man with an ample black mustache leans over a nude woman in what appears to be an exam room of sorts. The doctor’s coat he’s wearing would seem to further indicate that he’s a physician — so too would the brightly lit, sterile office conditions. He probes the woman’s genitals with a variety of implements that range from the conventional (e.g., a speculum) to the unorthodox (e.g., a glowstick). He maintains an easy conversation with her as he proceeds, eventually calling in a nurse for assistance.

Not long afterward, the three of them start fucking on the exam table. …


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Nearly one-third of all Americans send sexy photos and/or videos of themselves online. Though most of them trust the people they’re sending nudes to, not all recipients deserve that trust. And even when they do, some of them get hacked. In fact, more than 10 million people in the U.S. alone have been blackmailed over their nudes, in some form or fashion. And those are just the people who know their private content has gone public; many others have no idea that naked imagery of them is floating around the internet.

To help combat this, Lionel Hagege, a Parisian advertising executive, has launched FacePinPoint, the first “reputation-management” website that utilizes facial recognition software to combat revenge porn. It’s similar in concept to LifeLock, except that FacePinPoint focuses on sexual content by finding matches of its users’ faces on revenge porn sites for a monthly fee. …


The latest installment of our series The ‘Normal’ Couples’ Guide to Sex

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About

Lynsey G

A writerly type. Author of “Watching Porn.” Co-founder of OneshiPress.com. Blogger at LynseyG.com.

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