Is Love Enough?
This is my essay I did for my English class on love. It was inspired by the book I was reading last month, Something Borrowed by Emily Giffin. Thank you Mr.Santin for always providing me with a topic I absolutely love love LOVE! :) (I’m just going to copy and paste).
Love. That four letter word we all either hate or want/need more of. What is it? Do we really know what love is? We are born out of love — and pain. Love creates us. Love is what makes or breaks some of us in life. But we still have a need for it. Why? At one point in time everyone will discover that love is enough. It is more than enough. To the negative ones whom argue that it’s not everything in this world, think again. Maybe you have your own goals that you want to accomplish on your own, and maybe you feel like no one would appreciate it in the world, but there are over seven billion people in this world, and there is definitely one for you. Who knows, they might not even be born yet or old enough for you. The things you get out of love are amazing; a best friend within your lover, a companion that will always be there for you, and of course the health benefits of sex.
Friendship starts it all. You love your best friend like you love no other. You know things about each other that even your parents and family will probably never know about you. You share so much memories together — whether they be good or bad ones. You two have a bond like a person has with a pet. Some think the friendship disappears when you start a relationship. However, the best parts of your friendship will still be there and probably 100% better! If you’re married, or living together, you’re practically living with your best friend. You get to cook for them or have them cook for you — maybe even cook together. You’ll always have someone to try new things with you (even if they are unwilling to at first, you’ll either compromise for something else or do what you/they wanted to do in the first place). You come home to them, tell them about your crappy or good day; you go out together and encounter some funny people and have a great time with each other and build little inside jokes with them. This is what makes the friendship part of your relationship never go away. Sure you guys might kiss, and cuddle and be labelled as significant others, but the love that’s there will never make your friendship disappear.
Companionship. Normally people who are older and do not have a companion seem to love it all especially if they’re too “busy” for love. There’s no such thing as too “busy”. Yes, you can be happy by yourself and you might say that it’s better being single because you have less stress, but what about the company at home? What happens when your girl or guy friend has their own busy life to attend to and you need someone? If you have a lover, then you’re set. With love by your side majority of the times, you’ll always have a shoulder to cry on, and someone to keep you in check when you really need it. Having a significant other will help reduce your stress levels. If you’re having a bad day at work and you’re thinking about all the things you need to do when you get home, then don’t stress, you have someone that’ll be there at home with you to help you out with the little things. And don’t worry about trying to catch someone’s attention when you go out the bar or club, you got someone at home that loves you and is waiting for you to come and snuggle.
Last but not least, the sex. Oh the favourite part of anybody’s relationship — or rather anything, actually. Sex is good for countless of things such as looking younger, boosting your fertility, it can relieve a woman of her bad cramps during menstrual periods, strengthens your bones and it just makes you feel better for the rest of the day. Dr. David Weeks, a clinical neuropsychologist at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, revealed at a psychology conference that his extensive research had found that older women and men with an active love life, looked five to seven years younger than their actual age. If you’re looking forward to having a baby any time soon, well lucky for you, studies have found that the more often you make love, the better quality your sperm will be. Frequent sex can also regulate a woman’s period so it’s easier to know when your ovulation day will arrive. However, if women suffer from those horrible painful cramps during their menstrual, have sex! The muscle contractions that occur when you reach levels of excitement relieves tension in the muscles of the uterus. As well as these positive factors, I bet you didn’t know that regularly having sex boosts the estrogen levels in post-menopausal women, and offers protection against bone thinning, osteoporosis that is triggered by a lack of estrogen. Overall, who doesn’t love the feeling of making love with their partner? It’s just an overall good feeling that will leave you with happiness and such a glow.
In conclusion, love can be seen differently in people’s eyes. Whether or not you’ve had bad experiences with love, there’s always hope. Remember to be friends before starting and develop your relationship, or at least have that friendship aspect to your relationship in general — everything will be much more worthwhile and enjoyable for the both of you. If you love having someone around, the reconsider this whole relationship thing — it might just be good and entertaining for your future. And don’t even second guess the glowing sex factor of it all, probably the second most exciting part of the relationship that’ll always happen.