Oh, Kel, you said it so well.
Stella J. McKenna

Interesting one. We had builders around the other day, initially very similar behaviour, them talking to not to my wife, because, hell, what does she know about plumbing. Now having said this, they soon found out that she is a much tougher negotiater than me so they kept talking to me. Should I know be offended for being implied a sissy?
See, this is not sexism, this is human interaction and experience based behaviour.
It’s still shitty behaviour but not always sexism (though there is that too, of course)

But let me make another example: We recently got rid of our old kitchen. A young couple came to collect it for free. The deal was they’d help to disassemble it. Now the couple came (he a builder, her very pretty (see I’ve said it) and made up) and he and I and my wife did all the work. She was not lifting a single finger. I kid you not. She was very nice, and not snotty or arrogant or lazy, just like ‘uhh, I don’t know I could do this or would be doing this right and I am not very strong’. I was very stunned by this, because my wife is nothing like this. And to her credit when she offered help, her man would quickly step in saying that he’d be fine and he’d be doing it. So maybe she was pushed into this behaviour. 
But may point is that not all women feel like they need to be equal in all aspects. And that’s fine too.
So say someone dates this girl and doesn’t hold the door open for her, doesn’t pay for dinner and asks her to help with DIY, she might find this very strange. From what I am reading in this blog post this should make her a sexist, too. No? Or is she a — sorry for the word — whore? I’m just putting it out there, but we can’t have it both ways, can we?

I think what I am trying to say is that it’s very easy to second guess people and call them sexist whereas this is often a far more complicated affair…

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