Chemistry Behind being Influential

M Shahbaz Umar
Nov 1 · 2 min read
How to win friends and influence people
How to win friends and influence people
How to win friends and influence people

Everyone has a different way of perceiving things according to their mind filters. This thing makes all different in every domain of life, because of this reason, I by myself think that I’m different. Now I’m going to share my understanding of “How to win friends and influence people.” We spend life seeing things in a limited domain. At one hand we wanted to spend life taking care of ourself and don’t pay attention to see thing in different dimensions and on the other hand we wanted to be influential among people. These are poles apart things. The truth is that we can’t swing on both sides. Either we can be self-loving or influential. If we wanted to be influential, we must be interested in other’s life. Listening to their stories and appreciating them are the most important points to keep in mind all the time because it helps us to become influential among friends and colleagues. Besides this, we should have to keep in mind several other points that help us be proactive and game-changer. We must believe in ourselves because it is the foundation of being an influential person. This trait makes people achievers and leaders. Stop believing in ourself push us in an inalienable situation. If we don’t believe in ourselves, how can the company around us believe us? we should be brave enough to embrace ourselves genuinely. We can encounter many defeats as long as we believe that we are not defeated. As William Ernest Henly has said in his poem ‘Invictus’:

“I’m the master of my fate; I’m the captain of my soul.”

Now I would like to share today’s experience of being interested. One of my friends visited me, initially, I was not in the mode to listen to him. Recently read book (How to win friends and influence people) contained me and forced me to apply that theory. That’s why I started listening to him attentively. After some time I found him engaged in conversation, it seems as he broke all the barriers. He made the situation easy for me to deal with him face-to-face. This experience let me win his attention and time and cooperation. If we really want to make new friends, we don’t need to persuade them. We just have to do things for other people- things that require time, energy, honesty, unselfishness, and thoughtfulness. This is a true mystery being social and influential. As James Allen said:

“A person is limited by the thoughts that he chooses”

M Shahbaz Umar

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