But what about when you have a culture that promotes/confirms/condones or otherwise considers it acceptable for a specific group to be unregulated. In this case that specific group would be separated by gender. I definitely understand that anyone from either group can be un/regulated. But when our culture goes to great lengths to pressure men to keep their emotions bottled up, to “man up”, to suppress weakness/pain and to toughen up, it is understandable why that would lead to a person being unregulated. Those aren’t healthy things to be told.
If you ignore that our society is doing these things then you’re ignoring a reality of the situation. I agree, we shouldn’t stereotype men or women, but we do need to understand that the messages given to each group may lead to one group being more unregulated by some margin.
Regarding solution of addressing or detecting an unregulated person, that’ll have to be found out from getting closer to the person and learning about them. Given that from there you can recommend advise or help to the person. Do they need a therapist, empathy/self-regulation/.. skills? The best a regulated person could do is give an unregulated person the tools or the knowledge to regulate themselves.
“Give a person a fish and they’ll be fed for a day, teach them to fish…”