#TowardsSelf — Self Help Tips From TheLeanProgrammer (Week #9)

What did we learn this week?

Madhav Bahl
Nov 4 · 7 min read

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Hi, I am a programmer & a self-help blogger, and I am on the mission to make the youth technically sound, good in programming and motivated to work. I see it as my goal to motivate and help people to achieve more.
As a step towards my mission, I post self-help writeups daily and write tech blogs regularly. I write a blog each weekend on “What we learned this week” having all my “Daily Self-Help Writeups”. Hope they help you!

Here are the tips from this week ✨

1. Don’t wait, start working now.

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Waiting for some “magic moment” to start something new? It will never come!

Instead of waiting for an opportunity, make an opportunity!

Instead of waiting for an opportunity, make an opportunity!

If you know what you want to do is right and will lead to your growth and development, then start doing it.

There’s no wrong time to do the right thing and there’s no right time to do the wrong thing!

My experience tells me that if we are just going to wait for this one “Magic Moment”, we are doomed to get disappointed. There is no such thing as a magic moment. Growth happens slowly, and gradually over a period of time that depends on person to person.

So instead of waiting for a perfect time, start working towards your goals.

2. Accept your mistakes, only then you will be able to correct them

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Acceptance is the first step towards improvement.

You did something bad, something wrong, or something that you regret, you can still set things right. The best thing about time is that the future gives potential and hope for improvement.

But generally, we either dwell too much on the past mistakes or we don’t even think about them

If you dwell too much on the mistakes you made, you are wasting your present which you could use to improve yourself.

If you don’t even think about the mistakes you made, you leave no scope for improvement, because in your mind you think that they weren’t even mistakes.

In both of the cases, these steps open the doors of self-improvement

1. Accept your fault
2. Take full responsibility, instead of being sad about it
3. Work to set things right, and then move on!

Have a happy week ahead :)

3. Do not overthink

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Overthinking attracts disaster,
life is simple, don’t make it complicated

If your conscience allows it, and if you think these actions of yours can bring in a positive impact in the life of people around you, then do it!

Before doing anything, (and even after doing something), we think too much.

Take a moment to remember the last time when you messed up or made a mistake, you’ll start feeling embarrassed just by the thought of “what other people might be thinking of you”

Now do one thing, go to the people who were around you when you did it, and ask them indirectly. To your surprise, most of the people will not even remember what happened.

Due to the egocentric nature of human beings, we all make a mistake of thinking that others are thinking only about us. But as a matter of fact, everyone else is busy doing the same, which proves that they are not thinking or judging you.

So the next time this fear of mistakes and being judged on them stops you from doing something that might lead to your growth, keep this in mind that you are not the center of this world, everyone makes mistakes and that’s how we grow.

Do things without overthinking.

4. Have a constant personality

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People with a constant/uniform attitude or personality are easier to trust than others

People with a constant/uniform attitude or personality are easier to trust than others.

This constant personality includes everything, how we speak, how we dress up, our signature scent, our reaction towards small problems, etc. It includes both mental and material uniformity.

Try to stay consistent and constant with your personality.

5. Willingly give up on the rewards and credits

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Good leaders don’t take the credit, they distribute it among the team members

They give the credit to their team, or they say that they just went lucky, whereas a common man would always take the whole credit for each and every achievement.

More interestingly, when these great achievers fail, now instead of blaming their luck or other people, they simply say that “It was my fault, I could have done better”, they take full responsibility, whereas a common man would start playing the blame game in situations like these.

It’s quite amazing how most of the successful people credit others for success and take responsibility for failure

Plus there’s one amazing benefit of doing this, success will not bring “over-joy” and failures will not bring “extra-pain”

6. Make No Excuses

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Instead of dwelling on your past mistakes and making excuses, start working now so that you won’t need to give excuses in the future

In one of my posts, I talked about how overthinking attract disasters. We are too afraid to fail. Why? Because the most basic human nature inside us demands good attention, and for that, we often try to please people around us. But while doing so, often we start looking for others’ approval for each of our actions.

And sometimes it so happens that our past mistakes stop us from taking risks in present (and future). Because we don’t want to go wrong again, we don’t want to be judged. I agree that these thoughts do prevent us from falling again, but if we don’t take risks, we trade success at the macro-level for mediocrity.

So no matter how miserably you failed last time, don’t be afraid of trying out once more, don’t be afraid of what people will think, it’s their job, let them think, you don’t think what they will think.

That’s why I mentioned in that post, “If your conscience allows it, and if you think these actions of yours can bring in a positive impact in the life of people around you, then do it!”


“Always aim for the moon. If you miss you’ll land among the stars.”

Feel free to reach out to me anytime if you want to discuss something :D

I would be more than happy if you send your feedback, suggestions or ask queries. Moreover, I love to make new friends and we can be friends, just drop me a mail.

Thanks a lot for reading till end. You can contact me in case if you need any assistance:
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Thank you for reading till the end. If you found this blog helpful, please share, comment, and press/hold that 👏 a few times. I will keep posting such small blog posts each weekend.

Madhav Bahl

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