#TowardsSelf — Self Help Tips From TheLeanProgrammer (Week #9)
What did we learn this week?

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Hi, I am a programmer & a self-help blogger, and I am on the mission to make the youth technically sound, good in programming and motivated to work. I see it as my goal to motivate and help people to achieve more.
As a step towards my mission, I post self-help writeups daily and write tech blogs regularly. I write a blog each weekend on “What we learned this week” having all my “Daily Self-Help Writeups”. Hope they help you!
Here are the tips from this week ✨
1. Don’t wait, start working now.
Waiting for some “magic moment” to start something new? It will never come!
Instead of waiting for an opportunity, make an opportunity!
Most of us spend too much of our time waiting for one perfect moment when we can finally start, people do spend too much time waiting for “one big opportunity”. I say, why not make one?
Instead of waiting for an opportunity, make an opportunity!
If you know what you want to do is right and will lead to your growth and development, then start doing it.
There’s no wrong time to do the right thing and there’s no right time to do the wrong thing!
My experience tells me that if we are just going to wait for this one “Magic Moment”, we are doomed to get disappointed. There is no such thing as a magic moment. Growth happens slowly, and gradually over a period of time that depends on person to person.
So instead of waiting for a perfect time, start working towards your goals.
2. Accept your mistakes, only then you will be able to correct them
Acceptance is the first step towards improvement.
The scope of improvement takes birth only after acceptance of the fault.
You did something bad, something wrong, or something that you regret, you can still set things right. The best thing about time is that the future gives potential and hope for improvement.
But generally, we either dwell too much on the past mistakes or we don’t even think about them
If you dwell too much on the mistakes you made, you are wasting your present which you could use to improve yourself.
If you don’t even think about the mistakes you made, you leave no scope for improvement, because in your mind you think that they weren’t even mistakes.
In both of the cases, these steps open the doors of self-improvement
1. Accept your fault
2. Take full responsibility, instead of being sad about it
3. Work to set things right, and then move on!
Have a happy week ahead :)
3. Do not overthink
Overthinking attracts disaster,
life is simple, don’t make it complicated
Think about a moment, why do you need other people’s approval of your actions?
If your conscience allows it, and if you think these actions of yours can bring in a positive impact in the life of people around you, then do it!
Before doing anything, (and even after doing something), we think too much.
Take a moment to remember the last time when you messed up or made a mistake, you’ll start feeling embarrassed just by the thought of “what other people might be thinking of you”
Now do one thing, go to the people who were around you when you did it, and ask them indirectly. To your surprise, most of the people will not even remember what happened.
Due to the egocentric nature of human beings, we all make a mistake of thinking that others are thinking only about us. But as a matter of fact, everyone else is busy doing the same, which proves that they are not thinking or judging you.
So the next time this fear of mistakes and being judged on them stops you from doing something that might lead to your growth, keep this in mind that you are not the center of this world, everyone makes mistakes and that’s how we grow.
Do things without overthinking.
4. Have a constant personality
People with a constant/uniform attitude or personality are easier to trust than others
Generally, attitude keeps on changing with emotions, or as we call it “mood”. Emotions are temporary, and how we act on them makes our character, and knowingly or unknowingly, people judge our character and our personality.
People with a constant/uniform attitude or personality are easier to trust than others.
This constant personality includes everything, how we speak, how we dress up, our signature scent, our reaction towards small problems, etc. It includes both mental and material uniformity.
Try to stay consistent and constant with your personality.
5. Willingly give up on the rewards and credits
Good leaders don’t take the credit, they distribute it among the team members
Whenever (most of the) achievers do something great, they don’t take the credit themselves.
They give the credit to their team, or they say that they just went lucky, whereas a common man would always take the whole credit for each and every achievement.
More interestingly, when these great achievers fail, now instead of blaming their luck or other people, they simply say that “It was my fault, I could have done better”, they take full responsibility, whereas a common man would start playing the blame game in situations like these.
It’s quite amazing how most of the successful people credit others for success and take responsibility for failure
Plus there’s one amazing benefit of doing this, success will not bring “over-joy” and failures will not bring “extra-pain”
6. Make No Excuses
Instead of dwelling on your past mistakes and making excuses, start working now so that you won’t need to give excuses in the future
Failures are a part of life, we all fail. Success and failures go hand in hand at the micro-level, and by increasing our number of wins at the micro-level, we aim for huge success at the macro-level.
In one of my posts, I talked about how overthinking attract disasters. We are too afraid to fail. Why? Because the most basic human nature inside us demands good attention, and for that, we often try to please people around us. But while doing so, often we start looking for others’ approval for each of our actions.
And sometimes it so happens that our past mistakes stop us from taking risks in present (and future). Because we don’t want to go wrong again, we don’t want to be judged. I agree that these thoughts do prevent us from falling again, but if we don’t take risks, we trade success at the macro-level for mediocrity.
So no matter how miserably you failed last time, don’t be afraid of trying out once more, don’t be afraid of what people will think, it’s their job, let them think, you don’t think what they will think.
That’s why I mentioned in that post, “If your conscience allows it, and if you think these actions of yours can bring in a positive impact in the life of people around you, then do it!”
“Always aim for the moon. If you miss you’ll land among the stars.”
That’s it, hope you liked this short blog and it helped you.

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