Remove relationship clutters in 6 steps

“Clutter is not just the stuff on your floor — It’s anything that stands between you and the life you want to be living.” — Peter Walsh
All relationships, even the strongest and longest ones can become cluttered at some point in life.
Busy with daily heckles of life we often fail to give our relationship the attention they deserve. Mostly people start realising the clutters after it starts stressing the relation. Clutters are toxic for any relationship since it involves a lot of our physical and mental energy.
What is a clutter?
Clutter is a blockage — an energy that stops you from taking the next step. It may be physical, mental, emotional or spiritual.
Burdened with commitments, expectations, responsibilities, and so many other pressures, we become hoarders of the negative thoughts and pollute the relationship.
The different factors leading to relationship clutters
- A paramount concern regarding partner’s loyalty.
- Lack of communication between partners.
- Self doubt that leads to think “my partner doesn’t like me anymore.”
- Professional hazards creeping its way home and affecting relationship.
- Too many failed expectations from the partner.
- Losing autonomy and getting dominated by the partner.
- Small arguments over daily matters.
- Dissatisfaction with the partner’s profession and salary.
- Maladjustment with each others’ family.
We often fail to recognize the real issue that causes the trouble and focus on the apparent trivial matters.
For example, a woman who suspects infidelity may shout at her husband every time he comes home late. The husband, clueless of the reason behind this behavior starts presuming something that is totally different from the actual problem. Daily fights slowly show up and the relationship would eventually wither away.
However, simply talking it out would have resolved and removed the clutters immediately, isn’t it?
De clutter your relationship
It is not as difficult as it sounds. De cluttering relationship can be done in simple and easy ways.
- Talk it out — There cannot be a better solution than talking about the differences in any relationship. Wherever you feel the gap increasing, just have a talk. Getting out together for sometime would be a great idea to discuss about what is bothering you. Do not wait for the other person to come up first. No matter how petty the matter may be, having a clear discussion can prevent a lot of bad fights in the future.
- Expect less — Expectations are always there from the people we love. We expect our partners to love us, care and be there at all times. But having unrealistic expectations from the partner can be really damaging for the relationship. Keep realistic expectations. That could reduce stress at many levels.
- Respect each other — Mutual respect keeps any relations long going. Acknowledge and appreciate your partner whenever needed. It makes the other one feel wanted. Even if you hit into an argument with your partner, talk respectfully. The feeling of getting disrespected can have long lasting effects on the relationship.
- Leave the past in past — It is very important to have peace with your past. An unsettled past can emotionally damage both the partners hugely and would eventually create distress. Do not let the past haunt you or your partner.
- Admit whenever you are wrong — Never hold yourself from apologizing when you are wrong. Saying sorry doesn’t make us weak. Instead it can immediately resolve the issue that is causing stress in the partners. It is good to keep shut when you are right and to admit when you are wrong.
- Agree to disagree — No two people can be the same. There will always be differences in opinions. Learn to accept the differences. Never blame or criticize your partner if you cannot agree with him/her. Once we can start accepting the differences in the opinions, no cause would be strong enough to strain the relationship.
Clutters and stress are only a part of relationship. The beauty lies in accepting each other’s imperfections and choosing to be together even when things go wrong.
So stay real and loyal to your partner and remember the flaws are never bigger than the person. As Albert Einstein had truly said “ Out of the clutter, find simplicity.”
Thank you for reading.
