The way you frame marriage makes it completely unappealing. Nothing was said about love, romance, the desire to grow old with a true friend, exploration of life together, being parents together, bringing families together, starting a family.
It was just “poor me” my life is hard, feel sorry for me. May I have sympathy sir?
If you want to make marriage appealing to both sexes and for the right reasons, try seeing it as something that actually is appealing. Because right now, as you accurately described it, it is seen as a sacrifice of freedom for little gain. At least to men.
A reframing is what is needed. Not an announcement of female victimization.
Now I’m not saying what you mean about women and marriage is false. It’s not. But it wasn’t empowering. At least not to me. “Let’s be victims together” can I show you my scars? Is that the most you can offer these women? Is that the final solution to this problem?
Again, it’s fine to acknowledge the hurt, it’s fine to find support among the suffering, it’s fine to educate, but that’s not enough.
Reframe marriage. Take ownership. Make it yours. Not history’s. Fuck history. Fuck old definitions. Take it all back. Flavor it how ever you want. Declare it’s value because you wrote its value. Brand it.
And for goodness sakes, make sure all invested receive equal benefit and must give equally.
