The” J ” Word — UNAPOLOGETICALLY ME — QUORA
The J Word by Mae Jacolo Aguilar”apple” on UNAPOLOGETICALLY ME
Do (narcissistic) sociopaths experience jealousy?
YES THEY DO, pretty much all the time, 365 days a year and throughout their sick life time… This is the price of not succumbing to “THE TRUTH” in general and the truth of their disorder. They are happily settled being TROLLS for life. Trolls are no less than obsessed fanatics with bloated egos refusing to admit their obsession over another person. Trolls are driven by both envy and jealousy — -PATHOLOGICAL. Narcissists need a good whipping and I do not hesitate to call on them whenever they misbehave brought about by pathological jealousy and envy — — I WILL NOT BE A narc’s SCAPEGOAT.
These are 9 year old kids trapped in an adult body so treat them accordingly…(GOALS FOR TROLLS | Mae Jacolo Aguilar “AppLe” on WordPress.com) Kids need discipline and a moment of “snapping out” so they can go back to reality and deal with their envious narcissistic self. Only in this case you are not dealing with a normal child but a childlike adult.
First, let us define and differentiate the words JEALOUSY and ENVY.
Envy is a reaction to lacking something, refers to wishing we had something that another person has (Ex. good, stable relationship and career, picture perfect smiles, real life stunning closets and broad sense of knowledge of just about everything under the sun — -RELATIONSHIPS/Human behavior, Architecture, Music, Arts, Culture, History, Psychology, current events, Gov’t, State, Church, Spirituality, Activism, Science, Nature, etc.,etc). Jealousy is a reaction to the threat of losing something (usually someone). … When these states become pathological, then delusion and insane behavior sets in — and the results are devastating…
Dr. Sam Vaknin, an expert on narcissism describes pathological envy as “…a compounded emotion. It is brought on by the realization of some lack, deficiency, or inadequacy in oneself. It is the result of unfavorably comparing oneself to other — to their success, their reputation, their possessions, their luck, and their qualities. It is misery and humiliation and impotent rage and a torturous, slippery path to nowhere. The effort to break the padded walls of this self-visited purgatory often leads to attacks on the perceived source of frustration.”
This means that when you are feeling jealous, you are often feeling envious as well.
SO, IT IS QUITE OBVIOUS AND SAFE TO SAY THAT BOTH GO TOGETHER HAND IN HAND. Narcissists are envious because they are aware of their true frail nature they desperately try to neutralize by acting oddly tough. The fakeness of who they are is felt by your empathic nerves and radiates to the core of the most sensible beings who encounter them. The only group of individuals applauding and cheering for these ATTENTION MANIACS are FLYING MONKEYS who are obviously by far speak the same narcissistic language.
These are the kind of people who are most willing of becoming accomplices to a narc mastermind, and they label each other “FRIENDS”. These FLYING MONKEYS/NARC FRIENDS, are no less than commodity and they serve their purpose real good to the narcissist mastermind. The reason being, why these narc friends exist is because of narcissistic jealousy caused by pathological envy of the narcissists towards life and others and they need an army.
Be advised that most, people with mental/personality disorders usually thrive on chaos and they just do not fight fair. Why is this? Simply because they have the perfect opportunity to play as “ THE VICTIM” or “ THE HERO” and the flying monkeys are the ones to satisfy their ego with their never ending support and applause. Either way they garner the amount of attention and sense of importance they need to survive and keep their facade going. This is the only way they know how to divert their own attention and ignore their true identity — -the suppressed “WEAKLING” Self (CODE NAME:Incognito — PICK THE BRAIN — QUORA — Mae Jacolo Aguilar”apple” — Medium).
JEALOUS as ever because they realize that others are more capable than them and this threatens them of losing control of maintaining that ARTIFICIAL TOUGH MASK steady. A narc can only do so much holding on to that mask, because he/she always reacts impulsively and they always end up losing it — — which is why I personally choose to unmask them by making them react to everything I do and say. Watch out for the signs, EXPLOSIVE REACTION VIA PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE METHOD is a classic narcissistic red flag (oops!STEPPING ON YOUR TOES? | Mae Jacolo Aguilar “AppLe” on WordPress.com) . Take note of those who speak with contempt on a regular basis — — spiteful and continuous aggression. Quite frankly, all you need to do is to watch them mess up and collapse — — STONEWALLING is one way narcissists recognize their defeat. Their attempt to go on hiatus, which in my opinion only suggests that an empath has deeply wounded the narcissist’s ego.
This act of hibernation maybe manifested thru verbal declarations of “not reacting towards anyone”, or simply fading away, a typical coward turning away instantly dropping everything to minimize their embarrassment, hence ‘THE DISAPPEARING ACT” — — defeated narc
WHAT MAKES THIS NARC STRATEGY NOT ONLY OUTDATED BUT PREDICTABLE IS THE FACT THAT IT IS ABSOLUTELY FUTILE TO BEGIN WITH. The reason being is that narcs go around in circles like dogs if you will, chasing his own furry tail. Whether they admit it or not this remains to be true of them. They live, they die and carry on with the same narcissistic cycle as passed on to the next generation.
EMPATHS on the other hand, remain to be constant targets because they possess all the desirable qualities a narcissist does not have. These narcissistic sociopaths/psychopaths see empaths as “pebbles in their shoes”, (The pebble in your shoe; HIS/HER toxicHIGNESSS+ — Mae Jacolo Aguilar”apple” — Medium) that “ pain in the _ss” that constantly remind them of how ordinary and insignificant they are. There is nothing more irritating to these envious narcissists than seeing an Empath living free in truth and enjoying life as it is. Free from worries of maintaining a social facade, attracting attention or seeking validation from others. EMPATHS do as they please based on what the conscience dictates rather than social dictate.
Let us sum this up. NARCISSISTS+INSECURITIES+WEAKNESS+INSTABILITY=ENVIOUS/JEALOUS=>PERSONALIZED OFFENSE= REACTIVE/ABRASIVE/PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR — — ”GAS LIGHTING”+STONEWALLING
Stonewalling occurs when the listener withdraws from the interaction, shutting down and closing themselves off from the speaker because they are feeling overwhelmed or physiologically flooded. Rather than confronting the issue, someone who is stonewalling will be totally unresponsive.
GAS LIGHTING — -A form of intimidation or psychological abuse, sometimes called Ambient Abuse where false information is presented to the victim, making them doubt their own memory, perception and quite often, their sanity. The classic example of gaslighting is to switch something around on someone that you know they’re sure to notice, but then deny knowing anything about it, and to explain that they “must be imagining things” when they challenge these changes.
HENCE, GAS LIGHTING COUPLED WITH STONEWALLING means PATHOLOGICAL ENVY/JEALOUSY…
FOR EMPATHS: MORE READS ON HUMAN BEHAVIOR
(https://www.psychologytoday.com/...... ; Urban Dictionary: Gaslighting ;Jealousy — Pathological Jealousy and Envy : Melanie Tonia Evans)
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