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I Thought I Was Too Smart to Be Abused

When logic is no match for love — There were red flags. That’s an understatement. There were so many red flags our house must have resembled the opening ceremony of the Beijing Olympics. It’s not that I never recognized the negatives as negative — the lying, the drinking, the humiliation, the threats, the cutting remarks, the checking my…

Abuse

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I Thought I Was Too Smart to Be Abused
I Thought I Was Too Smart to Be Abused
Abuse

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The Online Dating Profile I Wish I Could Write

What if I told you I just fled an abusive marriage — and I’m afraid — This story is part of the Internet Time Machine, a collection about life online in the 2010s. I am afraid of you. I’m afraid you’ll rape me, or hurt me, or play with my mind. I’m sorry to be so blunt, and I’m even sorrier because you’ve done nothing to…

Relationships

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The Online Dating Profile I Wish I Could Write
The Online Dating Profile I Wish I Could Write
Relationships

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An Apology to My Husband’s Ex-Wife, in 13 Parts

A cautionary tale for cheaters — I had an affair with your husband, to whom I am now married, and I am so, so sorry. If there is one decision in my life I could undo, it would be this. …

Life

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An Apology to My Husband’s Ex-Wife, in 13 Parts
An Apology to My Husband’s Ex-Wife, in 13 Parts
Life

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The Hardest Truth About Domestic Abuse

Despite everything, I still loved my abuser — All stories about abuse are hard. For me, this one is the hardest. It’s the hardest because it’s the truest, and because it complicates our impulse to separate the good guys from the bad guys. My husband was one of each. When his dark side was in control, he was…

Relationships

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The Hardest Truth About Domestic Abuse
The Hardest Truth About Domestic Abuse
Relationships

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Nov 3, 2021

There’s An Epidemic of Lazy Men, and Women are the Ones Getting Sick

My boyfriend gave me a rock for my birthday— not a diamond, but an actual rock that he found by the river on our first date. It’s romantic, I guess, that he saved it all this time. …

Women

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There’s An Epidemic of Lazy Men, and Women are the Ones Getting Sick
There’s An Epidemic of Lazy Men, and Women are the Ones Getting Sick
Women

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·Jun 25, 2019

I’m the Other Kind of Other Woman

After my divorce, I was no longer protected from the advances of married men — It’s happened three times now, with three different married men, in the three months since I’ve been divorced. It seems like too much of a coincidence to be coincidental. It looks like this: A man I’ve worked with for years suddenly begins communicating with me exponentially more frequently than he…

Relationships

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I’m the Other Kind of Other Woman
I’m the Other Kind of Other Woman
Relationships

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·May 8, 2019

A Gentleman and a Sadist

The false dichotomy of good guys and bad guys — He liked it rough, he said, and he liked to be the aggressor. This surprised me, because he seemed so gentle, so soft-spoken. And it scared me, because I was less than six months out of an abusive marriage and still afraid of men in general. He may as well…

Nonfiction

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A Gentleman and a Sadist
A Gentleman and a Sadist
Nonfiction

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·Apr 12, 2019

Sometimes, Delusional Optimism Is All You Need

Life is hard right now, but I’m trying to amplify the positive moments whenever they pop up — I found the cabinet at a garage sale. It was hideous: rough wood painted a fading puke green color. There were partially rotten patches in the wood, but I decided they didn’t affect its structural integrity. …

Optimism

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Sometimes, Delusional Optimism Is All You Need
Sometimes, Delusional Optimism Is All You Need
Optimism

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·Mar 14, 2019

When Closure Is Out of Reach

On seeing my abuser when I least expected it — I wasn’t sure I would ever see you again. I wasn’t sure I wanted to. By the time I left, I was so afraid of you that I didn’t even think about anything but getting away from you. It never occurred to me to prepare for what happened this morning. …

Love

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When Closure Is Out of Reach
When Closure Is Out of Reach
Love

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Human Parts

·Nov 5, 2018

One Week Out: The Complicated Relief of Escaping Abuse

Each day after leaving brings emotions that are anything but simple — Day One We leave in the night. It isn’t how I planned it, but none of this is how I planned it. Nobody plans to end up in an abusive marriage; we just ignore the signs that foreshadow its inevitability. The girls are curled up like squirrels on the sleeping nests I’ve…

Relationships

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One Week Out: The Complicated Relief of Escaping Abuse
One Week Out: The Complicated Relief of Escaping Abuse
Relationships

4 min read

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Maggie Haukka

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