No Expectation Shouldn’t Be an Exception

Embrace today, because it matters

Mahvera
Mahvera
Sep 8, 2018 · 2 min read

Movies, poems, fictions, and many other forms of art represent love, heartbreak, the grey area, almost-zoned, and limitless topics revolved around romance. They’re relateable, they bring feelings, they make us feel validated to reflect in our own feelings.

In another side, they also bring expectation to the table.

I think expectation is one of the most dangerous things in romantic relationship. In the highest confidence level, it make us feel in power of other’s life; and in the lowest confidence level, it creates insecurity and self-loathe. Both of them are not the healthiest way to run a relationship.

Adjusting expectation is important, because our life is defined by human experiences and spiritual fate, not only by scripted plot from a random stranger that happened to be a movie director. Life is more complicated than the way it is captured by media, and love has its own twists that differs from every couple.

There is, of course, an infinite range of factors for someone to decide knowing us better, to decide whether to stay or to leave, and finally to decide whether they are ready to choose for being committed to us in their life.

And we never know.

That’s why, I personally choose not to expect anyone for anything.

Of course, the journey is not easy, but I can say it’s actually worth it. It’s so hard (especially at first) not to compare our own life with others, but I know that I’m walking on my own path and just trying to make the best out of it. I once overanalyzed everything and it ended up blurs my own happiness that is actually served to the table.

Sometimes, what we have in our head is too complicated when the reality is actually very simple.

In my case now, I’ll just be thankful for what we have now, be grateful that I am given a chance to learn about both the person and myself better, and allow ourselves to take time to asses and observe each other.

I decide to be focus on that. The learning journey.

So, even if, the worst case, we find out we are not meant to be together, there’s no single second ever wasted because it aims for learning, it aims for experience, it aims for happiness. Not for ego, not for expectation.

And if we can work it out, I hope I can always remember: forever is composed by nows.

Mahvera

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Mahvera

Writing is the way I capture thoughts and emotions. Afterall, those make us a human.

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