Bianky Flowers
Jul 10, 2017 · 3 min read

“So what?” Di ba Nadine Lustre?

First and foremost, I dont think that there is anything wrong with cohabitation. I would rather pick cohabitation than to get married and then get separated, for at least in cohabition there are no formal vows or sacred vows being broken, only hearts. Why would I assume that the marriage would fail? I don’t want to, but in our society which promulgates queridas and mistresses in the mainstream, there is a high chance of this to occur. Is it logical of me to assume that since people are watching mistresses then they would copy them? No it isn’t, but I’m just following the same flawed logic that people are doing by blaming Nadine and her statements for the “what may be” lives of her young fans.


This backlash towards Nadine Lustre is a classic example of Filipino double standardization. I haven’t been watching local shows since I live abroad and I don’t have TFC, but I’m on facebook and I can’t help but notice the memes about the local teleseryes. For the past half decade most popular shows have this ongoing theme: having extra-marital affairs. This, combined with the regular dose of pre-marital sex, teenage pregnancy, and the plain old violence, make up a number one rated teleserye nationwide. So forgive me or don’t, whatever, for not buying the cries of the people who are offended by Nadine Lustre’s “lack of sensibilities” and “irresponsible statements.”

Our society is a society who continues to make popular, such TV shows. We create a mode and fashion for mistresses, women who tear apart families, women with questionable morality. We popularize oneliners, reenact their catfights and basically have a grand jolly old time at the expanse of these stories. We allow our kids to watch these shows. I’ve seen some videos of kids even emulating their favorite scenes.

So how can we be okay with all of that and yet still turn up our noses on Nadine’s “so what” stand on cohabitation. People accuse her of being a bad example to her young fans when all she did was neither admit nor deny that she and her boyfriend are living together. Why is this aspect of her personal life being viewed the same way as using drugs?

I think that it’s funny that parents are outrage by her statements. Why must her words be a threat to your relationship with your child? Are you alarmed by a celebrity having more effect and influence towards your kid rather than you, the parent? Isn’t that more of a reflection of your poor parenting rather than a celebrity’s poor image? Why would a person, they only see on TV or other media devices, be more important to them, than the person they are with all day, all night? If that’s the case then the blame shouldn’t be transfer else where. You must look within yourselves.

Nadine Lustre is a celebrity. She owed her celebrity status to her fans. But she doesn’t owe them her life. She doesn’t deserve to be slut-shamed or be blamed for a future generation’s blunders. She deserve to be treated just as what she asked for “so what”?

Live and let live people.