Stupid questions do exist.
“How do I gain followers?” Anna asks Google. I asked questions like these for TWENTY YEARS. The one I asked myself the most was, “What is my purpose in life?” I wasn’t like Bieber who knew from the get-go who they were becoming. So I searched and searched and I never settled. Got a full-time job and when I had enough money saved up, I went for 80% business, 20% leisure trips trying to figure out. Eventually my friends didn’t ask how I am, but instead “Where are you?”
Then it ALL clicked while I was in Florida last year. Twenty years of searching lead to this moment… I’m going to insert my exact FB post here:
[1 July, 2016]
So I know I’ve disappeared for the past couple of weeks even though I said I was going to keep you guys updated during my US trip… Hear me out.
For the ones who know me, you know I’m all about energy. I can work all night, I can play all night, I can dance all night haha and I shy away from negative energy. I can reach anything I set my mind on, that’s just the way I’ve been raised and how Scorpios are (shout out to Scorpios!). However, this means NOTHING, absolutely nothing if I have no bearing or no sense of direction. This is why I disappeared. I had to stop and take some time off here in Florida because it’s been 20 years of searching and I still haven’t found my purpose despite always following my heart.
Kid me not, only while I was writing this today did it click, as in really click. I’ve heard it a million times before, but only now do I truly understand what I’m about to share with you all:
“The ability to ask the right question is more than half the battle of finding the answer.” — Thomas J. Watson
“If I had an hour to solve a problem and my life depended on it, I would use the first 55 minutes determining the proper questions to ask.” — Albert Einstein
“If you do not know how to ask the right question, you discover nothing.” — W. Edwards Deming
“To ask the right question is already half the solution of a problem.” — Carl Jung
“The answers are all out there, we just need to ask the right questions.” — Oscar Wilde
“Ask the right questions, and the answers will always reveal themselves.” — Oprah Winfrey
“If you don’t ask the right question, every answer seems wrong.” — Ani Difranco
And that’s just 7 of them. I’ve been asking the wrong question all this time. From the age of 8, I’ve made it a priority to travel every year because I find a piece of myself in every situation I face, in every single person I meet (you all know who you are). Life certainly gave me answers to the point where there were too many answers! It was all too overwhelming and it paralysed me.
So today I asked a different question. Instead of asking, “What is my purpose?” I asked myself, “Ok, which pieces do I already have and how do they come together? Which pieces are missing and which ones don’t belong?” And most importantly, “Do I even want to solve this jigsaw puzzle?”
Maybe this is why they say, “There is no such thing as a mistake.” or “Live the present moment” or “Be patient” because there’s no such thing as a wrong direction. The question is whether I start or not. And if I do decide to start, am I courageous enough to finish it? I think you know what I decide 😉 I wanted to share this with you all because it simply felt right. It truly breaks my heart when I see any person, even a stranger give up their gifts. All I can do is share my life and to say that it’s okay, I’m on the same boat!
Some of you already know one of my pieces because you were there with me on le snap — Mother Nature. It always seems to have the answers I need: perfection in design, perfection in engineering, perfection in regeneration and perfection in silence. This is Yosemite National Park… one of the most majestic places on this planet and it was on my bucket list to experience its beauty. I collaborated with Ted Chin (a very talented photographer from San Fran) and I can’t wait to share the rest with you once they’re done.
For the next two months I’ll be in Tampa, Miami, Chicago, New York, Toronto and LA. However the next stop holds my second piece, Space. I’m going to NASA next Wednesday 🙏🏽 I’m having lunch with astronaut, Ken Cameron so if you have any questions about aeronautics or space in general, let me know! I’m on Snapchat these days just because it’s the most effective way to answer your ‘how to’ questions and friends have actually replaced “How are you?” with “Where are you?” hahaha so add me: @malapira because more than likely, I’m gonna get lost and you have to save me lol.
If you’re still reading this, I LOVE YOU. It means a lot. I would love to know what you’re up to (coffee date or dm me). Here’s to solving our jigsaws.
So there it is… If you don’t ask the right questions, you will always get the wrong answers. When you’ve hit a road block, take a break, come back and ask yourself, “How can I GIVE? What have I accumulated thus far in my life, that I can give to others, my pieces?”
That’s why I am a very strong advocate for travel and for people never to forget EVERYTHING they are passionate about. If I hadn’t gone on a search, I would have nothing. Now I have 20 years worth of people, stories, knowledge, experiences and most of all, self-awareness. I know to a tee my passions, my strengths and weaknesses… to a tee. So a mini tip if you want to start your own business, know yourself first. Know what you love, know what you want to live for, or should I say, know who or what you are willing to suffer for, as the business world isn’t easy.
“Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.” — Bob Marley
Once you’ve discovered them or it, give it your ALL. Use the strengths/gifts you have discovered to love them first. Listen to their stories, ask them for their big dreams and see if you can contribute to their greatness.
Here’s to solving our beautiful jigsaws,