
How dare you call me that…
It is good before you get yourself into something you make a research. Background check is indeed necessary to do when starting a business, hiring and relationship. That means you will make a decision if anything is worth taking for a go. However, whether it feels so risky, overwhelming as to how much it will take from you before everything gets to the expected level, you will need to make a decision. The past is there to remind us we can try to say it is all gone. One way or another you will be visiting the past when someone misbehave. We don’t rely on the past for the future. We settle knowing that will definitely have less expectations.
Getting to know someone’s past doesn’t have to determine their future. People change, learn and grow. There is always a second chance for a reason and you are the channel too to such contribution in everyone’s present and future. The future of everyone is not clear, so we wont be dwelling on that much. No one knows. You choose the best candidate, partner and alliance yet somewhere somehow we get disappointed with the unexpected results. Prejudice is just a sickness not so easy to uproot. Judging people based on their past is failure to add value in their lives too. It is all good to decide whether you going on for anything of such background. You will not be hanged for your decision as far as prejudice is concerned. It is your life.
Naming and shaming to other people is as easy as speaking their first language. Calling someone names because of his or her past is never acceptable. Recently I watched a video that was trending about a very anxious young lady beating up and elderly person. Probably it was her mother or someone from the community. She whipped this poor mother, shouting at her as really someone who was not pleased with being called after a whore. In our cultures we do share the same thing, respect of the elders. It doesn’t matter what they say to you. In this case of the young woman, it seems like she got provoked by being called after such a disgusting name. I haven’t even met both of them to judge who was wrong and how did it all start. However, I don’t think it was alright for the elderly woman to call her that from the first place. She had no right too to whip and elderly person at all on the other side. This young lady’s advise was you dare not call me that again.
You are always allowed to make your own judgement on someone character. There are some characters you cannot change and precisely, never call anyone something you wouldn’t like to be called after too. People make mistakes, fall, got flaws like you and me but you dare not call anyone anything besides their given names. Please, ask if you are not sure who they are. Give people a second chance like you’ve always been. You’ve got nothing to lose if they mess up with you. At least they got someone to admire when it comes to good character and hear, you.
We all remember the story in the Bible of a woman who was caught committing adultery. I bet you would be the first one to cast the first stone today if that happened because you always the good guy and everyone else bad. The woman was brought forward and Jesus’s decision was to ask if there is anyone who doesn’t have flaws to cast the first stone. They all went away simple as that. Well I hope they will make it into Heaven at least they were honest enough not too. The thing you are not clean at all, and no one but we don’t condone infidelity and cheating at all. You dare not after all call me a whore. People do matter and the past is past just to be remembered and not repeated. Stay away from that kinda prejudice… The elderly woman paid such a cruel price and lost the opportunity to be the teacher to that girl. She used a provocative word, a wrong method to resolve…
