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I was always afraid of therapy. I didn’t want someone to tell me all the things that were wrong with me. I knew I was messed up. I knew I wasn’t normal. But I didn’t want to be labelled as “mentally ill”. Millions of people feel this way and refuse to get help because of it. But, if I had known how liberating it is to be diagnosed, I would have run to the first therapist available years ago.


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My first job was working in Chick-Fil-A at nineteen years old. I had no prior work experience, and barely any volunteering experience. They started me at $9/hour as a cashier. Exactly one year later, my position was director-in-training (director is the highest position in CFA, just below owner) making $13/hour. I was making more money than people who had been working there for years. I was even making more money than other managers who had been managing for years.

This is how I did it.

1. First Impressions


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Although many parents still scream at their kids to play outside instead of spending hours playing video games, it is a well-known fact that video games have many cognitive benefits. Some of these include better hand-eye coordination, improved spatial attention (the ability to quickly locate a target in a distracting environment, which also is an indicator of better driving ability), and increased multitasking ability. We know that playing video games has many benefits to children and teens as their brains develop, but what about the already developed brain?

As adults age, everything declines. Vision, memory, physical health and more all…


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We have all encountered some kind of bully in our lifetime. It may have been that mean kid in middle school, or the higher-up at your job, or even one of your friends. Whether they harass you physically, verbally, emotionally, or through the internet, it’s okay to admit that it hurts.

If you are being physically harmed, you need to do whatever it takes to get out of that situation. Tell someone in power, press charges, even fight back, if absolutely necessary.

I’m going to talk about the non-physical types of bullying here, so please seek help if you are…


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The current developments in technology are astounding and the rate of development is predicted to only increase. With this new era of technology, we now have generations of children who are exposed to things that no previous generation was exposed to. Everywhere you go now, be it restaurants, grocery stores, the mall, etc., you are almost guaranteed to see a toddler with their eyes glued to a screen. The distraction of an iPhone may be a relief to parents going about their daily tasks, but is it beneficial to the child?


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Everyone gets tired, whether that’s physically, mentally, or emotionally. Some of us work very early or long hours or have a physically demanding job. Some of us are parents who are juggling kids, the home, and work. And some of us are just depressed.

See, there’s a vast difference between normal tired and depression tired. Some people may think that people who are clinically depressed don’t have a reason to be tired. After all, they just lay in bed all day right? Don’t they sleep that entire time? They’re not even using any energy.

I don’t blame people who don’t…


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You know the saying. You’ve heard it a million times, most likely by your own mother and, though she may know a million things that are beneficial to you, she doesn’t know everything.

My mother is the most amazing person and I love her more than anything, but when you reach a certain age, that “mother-knowledge” isn’t relevant anymore. My mother lectured me constantly about my future when I was growing up. She was concerned about the decisions I would make that would determine my career, and so she decided that she would make the decisions instead. …


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Imagine your best friend. They are someone you trust, someone you believe, someone you understand. They know you inside and out and always wants what is best for you. Now, imagine if your best friend pointed out your flaws. Things that you were embarrassed about. Things that made you insecure. How would you react? Would you be angry? Would you believe them? Maybe they’re telling you to help you. Like when you are grateful someone told you you had green stuff stuck in your teeth- it saves you from embarrassment later on. …


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I believe that equity is the root of all things good and bad in a relationship and that either comes from having equity or lacking it. Allow me to tell you why.

I have been in a wonderful relationship for over four years, and we have never had one fight, one argument, or any built up resentment (key phrase alert) and when people are astonished to hear that and ask me “What’s your secret?” I shrug and say “Equity,” and they look confused.

Equity is fair and impartial balance. When you feel like you are not getting out of something…


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In early 2017, I was sitting in a lecture hall at my university zoning out while my Biological Bases of Behavior professor went on about action potentials. To be honest, I don’t know what she was talking about because I was consumed by my own thoughts. The voice inside my head kept telling me that I was worthless. That I had no purpose here on Earth. That everyone around me knew that I wasn’t normal. My brain bullied me for eating a cliff bar earlier that day, saying that I had enough fat to survive off of. I began writing…

Malinda Garcia

Freelance writer, story teller, mental health advocate, and CEO (Consistent Eater of Oreos)

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