Why does nothing change?

Why are you still here? Why does nothing change?

Maybe you are asking about these questions now. There is a time when you rethink and flashback about your life.

You start to find the answer. Sometime, you find it soon but not do anything or you pretend not knowing anything about these question.

The basic theory is that nothing will change if you never change the way. This is action and reaction law, Right? Nothing will happen without a reason. Everything has a reason, a change has too.

Now, let us see about how the example. To figure out what we are talking about now.

I rethink about my life. My salary never increases (still in basic salary for fresh graduate, even they can get better now), my saving is still zero. My body is still 60 kg. I am still getting flu every morning. I still can’t read 2 books a months. I am still looking for scholarship and struggling about my English. I have never written my book anymore. It has been 8 months since first day of 2017. Nothing changes. 2 years after I pass a phase of my life, move from university to working life. Not much improvement in my life. The worse, I did many declining in my life.

I always set a goal for every aspect in my life since university. Someone teach and ask me to do that repeatedly in every first day of new years. We did reflection in the end of year to count what have change and what still have to run in the next year. You know, after rethinking about it, I found not much change better. I am disappointed of myself.

While I am writing this article, I am asking myself, why nothing change better?

I will try to elaborate my perspective, my reflection, conclusions about what happen. Please take a look.

1. Comfort Zone

First of all, it happens because we don’t want to leave our comfort zone. We thought it is okay to be like that, we always think that we are satisfied with all we have now. We think it is enough to have that salary. How about you? If you feel like that, I suggest you to rethink deeper and deeper.

2. The Ways of Life

The second important reason maybe because we never change the way we live. We always do the same thing, with the same concept, the same strategy, the same technique every day, every month and every year. So nothing changes. It is like you are eager to make coffee with starbucks taste but you give the same ingredients like you have in your house, with the same sugar and ordinary coffee bean. Or it is just like you wish you improve you English but you don’t do anything about that, you don’t take any course, you don’t practice your conversation, you even don’t read book about that. What the hell you think will change.

3. We are Not Alone

The worse reason is we felt comfortable because we are not alone. We have people with the same situation with us. Even, we compare ourselves with the worse/wrong person. We comfort ourselves with think that it is usual. We are not left behind.

4. Your Time

Next reason is silly thing. We think that this is still our time. It is our life stage in our age. You are still 2 years after graduation. I am still young, still 23 years old. Take your time. Don’t be rush.

5. Fear

This is what we all must overcome. In many occasion we feel fear. We fear that we can’t achieve what we have set. We fear that we have no skill to do something better. We fear that we questioned the silly thing in discussion. We fear that we talk non-sense in presentation. We fear about what people think and say about us. Let us know that all fear is only in your mind not others.

6. Renewing Mind

This is the most important of all the reason. We never change our mind, our perspective, our knowledge. This is the worst that we are stubborn with wrong idea, wrong mindset, wrong goal. Bible said in Rome 12:12 “do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what [is] that good and acceptable and perfect will of God”.

So what should we do?

The first, we have to renewing our mind. Tell yourself that you do not belong here, you deserve better, you can get better, you can do it. You have many chances you can take. If you did wrong, you can try and try again. If you have watched “We Bought a Zoo”, you can take the principle that you just need 20 seconds to change everything in the future. Take a minute (3x20 seconds) every day.

some questions to provoke you:

do i have to get new job?

do i have to start business?

do i have to take a class?

can your salary feed your family in the future, buy a house, a car?

are you happy now?

The last, please reading this quote every morning you wake up.

“do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what [is] that good and acceptable and perfect will of God”(Rome 12:2)

“I watched the water become turbid because of stagnation. The lion will not get its prey if reluctant to leave the nest. The arrows will never get the target if they do not want to leave his bow. Gold is like a piece of land is meaningless if it is not extracted from the mine” (Imam Syafi’i)

“Aku melihat air menjadi keruh karena diam menggenang. Singa tak akan mendapatkan mangsanya jika enggan meninggalkan sarangnya. Anak panah tak akan pernah sasarannya jika tak mau meninggalkan busurnya. Emas bagaikan seonggok tanah tak berarti jika tak digali dari tambang” (Imam Syafi’i)

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Malindo Andhi Saputra Marpaung

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