To Succeed,Get to Failing

“We learn from our mistakes”

Okay. I’m 21. Definitely not a parent yet but somehow I feel that we need a thorough change in the ways we deal with our children. I’m not yet a parent and that makes me all the more eligible to talk about parenting, or rather an ‘Out-of-the-box’ parenting.We have over-protective parents who wish to keep us on the safe side and for them ‘Failing’ is so scary but they must know that ‘failure is an event,not a person.’

“Overprotective parents raise the best liars”

Over parenting is characterized in the study as parents’ “misguided attempt to improve their child’s current and future personal and academic success.”Real protection means teaching children to manage risks on their own,not shielding them from every hazard.Parents should realize that it’s OK to let your kids fail.Learn to accept that your children aren’t babies, their full-grown individuals who also know which field of expertise is oriented for them and which is not.Give them the freedom to experiment,practice new things and learn from their mistakes.Make them follow their crazy ideas as High school is the only time for experiment and failure will have the lowest cost.Mistakes are a chance to learn and will help us adapt to new and difficult situations as we encounter them throughout life. In the long run, making mistakes and learning from them will give kids more self-confidence and resiliency than when we swoop in to save them from failure.As much as we’d like to, we can’t protect our kids forever, but we can give them the skills to be the best they can be.

There are so many examples which inspire me to write such articles.We all knew about Thomas Edison and Walt Disney,who have just tried 10,000 ways to make things right.They were not failures.Early experiences with failure will help them make tough decisions as they grow older and ultimately guide their successes.There is this famous saying by Colin Powell that,

“Success is the result of perfection,hard work,learning from failure,loyalty and persistence.”

You never know what will end up being important, but it’s probably not what you think .Joseph Schumpeter dubbed “creative destruction”: the process by which old ideas, and companies, and even markets are destroyed in order that something previously undreamed-of can replace them.Do we want a society that dreams new things and then makes them happen? I hear that we do, every time I hear a teacher, or a politician, give a speech.So why are we trying so hard to teach the next generation to do the exact opposite?