Let it go.

I am something of a control freak. I like stability and security. I’m a Type Six on the Enneagram, an INFJ, and a Taurus. If that means anything to you, you’re like, “well, of course you are.” If you’re rolling your eyes, just know that during the…


My plants are adjusting to autumn. It came late this year, with ninety-degree October days and sunbeams so strong my western windows threatened to melt.

I, too, am adjusting to an internal autumn, a rest, a moment of hibernation from the noise and hustle of my new job, new relationship…


Stop putting so much pressure on yourself.

There’s an Instagram post floating around, reposted by my friends, popping up on my “Explore” page. It’s a simple quote: “Your job does not have to save the world.”

I cried when I first saw it.

Maybe you’re like me. I was one of those kids placed into a gifted…


Summer is drawing to a close, and I am in my second September of not returning to teaching. I used to be a religion teacher at an all-girls Catholic school, where I like to think I met students where they were in their faith journeys, walked with them for a…


Teach people how to treat you.

One of the reasons it took me so long to fully extricate myself from my last relationship was because I kept making excuses for the guy. I’d excuse his drinking because of his stressful work schedule. I’d excuse his attitude toward women because of his fraught relationship with his mom.


Your spending is up to you.

August 1st. Budget open. Dollars being assigned to categories.

Right away, something becomes clear: there are fixed categories and unfixed categories.

Fixed categories are things that are the same every month and that you don’t get much opportunity to change, like your rent or mortgage, or your cell phone bill…


I have endometriosis. I am not defined by my endometriosis, and I don’t like to disclose this information to people unless I have to or think they will find it helpful somehow, but here I am writing about it on the Internet anyway.

I got my first period when I…


We’ve seen stories of businesses getting slammed on social media pretty frequently over the last few years. Now, it’s becoming a trend to threaten a business with a social media slam when you don’t get what you want.

This needs to stop.

Feedback Helps, And There Are Ways To Do It Appropriately

Managers want to know ways to improve a…


Look, I get it. Most of us only want to experience the good stuff: joy, triumph, love, etc. Human experience, for a plethora of reasons, is not confined to only the good stuff. Which sucks.

I really like my ability to reason. I can usually break down my points into…

Mandy Spears

Extreme hobbyist writing about spirituality, relationships, budgeting on a tight budget. Stories matter. Former teacher. Masters in Theology & Criminal Justice.

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