Do Life Your Way

The time is now to start being honest with ourselves to live a fulfilling and happy life.

It can be all too easy to let life “happen” instead of living it in a way that speaks to each of our true selves. Daily life takes over, time passes by, and you wake up one day wondering why there is a feeling of dissatisfaction, discontent, tiredness, frustration, or all of the above.

You may have lost who you truly are and what you care about somewhere along the way. There is even a chance you may have never been able to genuinely articulate to yourself what makes you happy, going along with societal norms, family expectations, or peer pressure.

Yet, at the end of your years, you want to look back and proclaim, “I lived a great life! I did what I wanted to do! I can die happy!”

Funny thing, this inevitable part of life that is death. Contemplating death means contemplating life. Moving beyond the fear of death and actually looking at it as a gift for how to spend the finite moments on earth can make you want to make the most of what you have left.

If you haven’t taken the time to be introspective and really think about what you want out of life, there is no better moment to do so than now.

What’s past is past. You can’t take that back. But you do have an opportunity now.

We can come up with the usual gazillion excuses for why there’s no time to take a step back and think about life’s journey. “The job is too demanding. My parents are sick. My child needs help with the homework. The dog peed on the rug again.”

The truth is, the world isn’t going to suddenly stop and hand over some extra time to you, carved out especially for the goal of figuring out what makes you fulfilled. You will have to prioritize your own well-being.

What this means is being completely honest with yourself.

You have nothing to lose by being honest with yourself.

You won’t be hurting your own feelings.

You won’t judge yourself (hopefully not!) the way others might.

The voices in our head that may judge or criticize us — or paralyze us with fear — are often stemmed from a small group of people whose opinions we hold (often a little too) dear. Who this mix of people consists of is unique to everyone. “What’s my mother going to think? My teacher may not approve. My boyfriend won’t like this. Uncle Bob will laugh at me.”

That’s often why people say, “If you want a friend, get a dog.” Dogs will love you whether you’re rich or poor. Are a CEO or a janitor. Have brown hair or no hair. They won’t care.

You are who you are, and you are perfect.

Be your own friend, and love yourself unconditionally.

That starts with going after what you really want and what will give your life harmony. When you go after that, you will flourish, and it doesn’t matter what people think or say. In fact, if they really care about you, they may bite their tongues or change their thought patterns because they see that you are living life more happily.

You’ve got just the one life, after all. Live it according to you.