Wussy Man Syndrome: The Emasculation of Men in our Society

Rafa Conde
Aug 24, 2017 · 5 min read

“The Wussy Man Syndrome is a disorder in a man that divides his core into part Wimp and part Pus**, in other words a coward with no guts.”

I have been contemplating writing on this subject for sometime. In light of some of the situations that I have experienced lately and individuals that I have met on and off line, I decided to put pen to paper.

So let’s start off by defining what I call the Wussy Man Syndrome (WMS): It is a disorder in a man that divides his core into part Wimp and part Pus**, in other words a coward with no guts. The Urban Dictionary defines Wussy as a person who whines all day and sits around and cries like a little baby over nothing. A person who will blow anything out of proportion and create drama to forget about their sad miserable lives. So now that you have the definition let me rev the engines.

Well, basically one of the starting points where men begin to fall into Wussy mode today is at home, especially in their relationships and family life.

Many men are afraid of their woman because they pound them down to a point where they get their balls ripped off. These men were most likely low in the alpha-male category and then crashed after a few years getting beat down by their alpha-partners. Now, I am only blaming the beat down partially on the woman, just read Dr. Laura’s Blog “Why Men Choose To Be Wussies”. This is not the woman’s fault completely. It is way more the man’s fault for being weak hearted and not having a backbone. The man at some point needed to step up and man up to the Man he is was supposed to be. Just a tid-bit of information, women don’t want cowards, they want to be loved, respected and protected by their Man…but that is an entirely different article.

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The reality is that this world has a lot more Men with WMS than Warrior Minded Men. Soldiers, Police Officers and Fire Fighters are a very small part of the population. There are some strong warrior minded businessmen, entrepreneurs and hard working men out there that live by a warrior’s code, however they are few and far between. The typical mindset of a Man with WMS is a weak one. The desire to dramatize and over exaggerate an incident is evident in his mannerisms and his inter-action with people.

For those that have a question about how I gathered this information, listen up. I have been training men and women (overwhelming majority of men) for well over a decade. Most of the people that I train are warrior minded men such as police officers , soldiers and and vetted civilians. I have trained hundreds if not thousands throughout that time frame. I also meet many different types of people all the time, that is part of my job. Based on my observations and experience I have noticed a shift in men. A shift from alpha to wussy. From confidence to whining. Yes, there have always been wussies in our society, however over the last decade I have seen a sharp increase in emasculation.

Now let me make myself very clear. When I say alpha, I am referring to a male that exudes confidence and stability. Not the bravado-macho type wannabe.

What is perplexing is that most of our society prefers men to be wimpy. We have seen an out pour of Men suffering from WMS this last election, more than I have ever seen. Love and Light, Hugs and Kisses are terms that are in the center of the typical wussy social media bio and at the center of their life. While there is nothing wrong with Love and Kisses what I find disgusting is the lack of balance. Men suffering WMS are single sided and gutless. They believe the world is all sunshine and rainbows, no pun intended. When the shit hits the fan they are the first ones running for the door leaving everyone else behind to die. These same men hide behind their keyboards attacking others with their pent up anger giving their bullshit opinions on topics that they have absolutely no clue about.

I write this article not to dog these men but rather to help them wake up from LaLa Land. This world needs men that are strong, courageous and compassionate. Men that can love and defend their families from the evil that lurks this earth. Men that will not put themselves first and extend a hand to those in need. Men that lead by example. These men in my book are called warriors.

I urge men that are struggling with WMS to take a look at their life. Ask questions that might be difficult to answer such as-Why am I lacking courage? Where is this pent up anger coming from? Why am I hating on others that are successful or that I do not agree with? Why do I hide behind my computer? Why is it difficult for me to be a leader? Evaluate where you are and what you want your legacy to be.

If you have had it and want to be cured of WMS, here is a bit of advice. It’s all about finding yourself, finding your masculinity, your alpha. No you don’t have to binge watch John Wayne’s western collection or the John Wick saga. First off, toughen up. Seek discomfort. Yes get uncomfortable. Turn the AC off, walk barefooted on the hot street, go to a concert and rub elbows with people. If you are frightened by it…make sure you do it.

Basically, progressive growth comes from pushing yourself through discomfort. Seek good pain through training in physical activities such as martial arts or fitness. Once you hit the pain zone stay in it and make it your starting point. Start off by pushing yourself a few minutes. at a time. Before you know it, you will start breaking out of your mold and start saying goodbye to WMS. The goal is to be able to look in the mirror and see a man that is starting to step by leading from the front. Your confidence will increase, your anger will diminish and your life will start changing in a positive direction.

Kick WMS in the ass and man up. This world needs men that can walk the walk and bring back masculinity, and remember masculinity is not a bad word.


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Rafa Conde

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Highly decorated Law Enforcement Officer, CQC Instructor, CEO, Founder & Host of Man of War Podcast. His mission is to forge Men into Warriors.

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