I’m struggling with this and following along this thread closely as it has lots of great viewpoints that I really want to internalize. So I thank you all for the discourse. But there are some things I don’t understand.
What responsibility does the young woman have for her own feelings at being looked at?
I admire the idea of “feeling beautiful” is an end to itself, but isn’t there a whole universe of context that is being stripped away in your arguments? (e.g. where’d she learn what “beautiful” meant? what was the purpose of those messages and what effect do they have on men as well? why must confidence come from externalized and subjective definitions of beauty?)