“We all want to be loved, but… other people’s feelings, judgments, and actions are not within our control. So we should focus instead on being the most lovable person possible for our companion. Whether he returns the favor or not, it’s up to him. Once we have done our utter best, to insist in controlling people and events that are actually outside our reach is futile, and likely to lead to pain and misery.” — Massimo Pigliucci
This is directly related to understanding what we do and do not control — that being: we only control ourselves and our responses; we do not control others or the universe; we cannot keep change from happening, but we can control how we react.
13. You can’t take money to the grave. What’s the point of saving all of this money when you could help others and actually live your life? Get on a plane. Go on adventures. Material items are not the true forms of wealth in our lives, it is the relationships we share with others, the lessons we learn, the places we see, and the happiness we feel.