Who Are You After Your Children Grow Up?
I have noticed a lot of woman lately trying to find themselves after their children have flown the coop, naturally becoming empty nesters. It is a very emotional trying time, especially more so if you have chosen to identify your entire early/mid adulthood years to being a stay at home parent. This once full time gig has the potential to now leave you with the feeling of emptiness & possibly even resentment that can often translate to those around in an unhealthy controlling language without even realizing it. What if I told you that I could help coach you with this?
What becomes of this woman or person who built their kingdom around the role they naturally embodied with their children? Who are they in the absence of their offspring that are now off to become independent sovereignties all of their own. What will happen to the person who is no longer needed for every day things that once gave them meaning and value? Where is that person now who once had the natural skill set to pull off fundraising and social activities that they volunteered for, having natural business minded abilities driven and focused within the home and school? Are you ready to TRANSFORM yourself for the next phase of your life?
What happens when the parent isn’t ready to “let them go” after dedicating their entire life to raising them? Sometimes they unknowingly use their children in a form of friendship as a way to self protect from the outside world to escape the potential feelings of abandonment. This could translate into unknowing issues of guilt and anxiety for the young adult who naturally wants to venture off to become their own individual human being, yet feels a responsibility for the parent who is left back home. Are you ready to show your children what life can look like afterwards.
As a mother myself with 2 adult daughters, I too had to reassess who I was after I was no longer required by natural progression & then by default of a role I once relished in. I was a semi stay at home mom who had a career as a manicurist, allowing me to both work part time and take care of my children while they were growing up. I had designed by choice my entire life around my daughters until I realized I was much more than just “their” mom, having wants, needs and desires out of the scope of parenting. I want my daughters to see what is achievable for themselves, by continuing my own growth and expansion.
I began to invest back into my self after my oldest first left after high school to pursue her own path, picking back up old hobbies I loved with the push of my husband. I started to refresh my tarot practice, took crystal healing certification courses that offered me the potential for supreme growth while reconnecting me back to that spiritual world I naturally felt alive in. It also came during a time that I was fighting to be a parent to my younger daughter who’s father didn’t see value in her having a mother, really giving me reason to see who I was outside the circumference of motherhood.
Unraveling who I was at the time began to expose some deeper truths I needed to address with a local healer & professionally, taking advantage of being in family therapy with my husband and younger daughter to work on myself individually with the psychologist. This was a difficult time for me personally but was the catalyst in the momentum and drive to see myself in a way that inspired my future potential. I can say that those years prior to now became the healthy stabalizing building blocks to the path that I am currently walking at this moment.
So WHO ARE YOU after your children grow up? If you are looking to unpack some of these questions, I am currently accepting coaching clients with a time sensitive free introductory discovery session that will offer you the ability to see your potential growth and value. I have a 3 month coaching program that can help you achieve that personal transformation, to feel healthy and be happy within this new space of life . ARE YOU IN? Email me at Magicalmaven@yahoo.com for further information, pricing and appointment booking!