I challenge you to choose.

Margaret A. Brunson, PhD, MPA
3 min readMar 8, 2021

As a Black woman who now has 4 decades of life to reflect upon, I can say that one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that I have options. And, when you have options, that also means you have the right to choose. Sometimes, those choices are seemingly meaningless, such as what I want to eat. Sometimes, those choices feel like life-altering decisions, such as whether I should end a marriage or change careers. Either way, the ability to choose is one of my most coveted possessions because it reminds me that I am indeed free.

Life is full of decisions. So often, many of us question whether we’re successfully adulting because we’re not sure if we’re actually making the right decisions. Daily, we are faced with opportunities and challenges. We struggle to figure out what’s best for us and what’s best for those we care for. And, honestly, we often have to wait a long time to see the outcome of our decisions or the lessons that come from them.

Not to mention, decision fatigue is real and when it sets in we find ourselves lazily moving through life. So, we decide not to decide. We decide to do nothing. We choose the path of least resistance. We go with the flow; often sacrificing our own desires and well-being and the well-being of others. We choose to keep our mouths closed, when we should speak up. We decide that it’s best not to rock the boat, when we really should be…